he was not a husband who supported me after so many years....I tried to make him respect me....I ran every day....participated in 10K races.....but to no avail...I was a teacher, but he made me feel like I was a worthless piece of Sh__. I took care of his kids and always made sure the house was immaculate....but he still made me feel like I was unworthy. What was wrong with me??
2006-06-11 16:38:17 · 31 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
nothing is wrong with you. He is scum. That is emotional abuse.
2006-06-11 16:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were crazy, because you stayed with a worthless piece of sh--. And you say that you tried I repeat tried to get him to respect you. Honey , that is to be the first thing that you get RESPECT!!!! with a CAPITAL "R". I wish you could talk to the guy that I'm dating now he would gladly tell you that he respect me to the utmost. Simply, because I've got it like that. In relationships we women have to be strong,sometimes we have to show sides of our self that are not very pretty but that's OK. We do what it takes. Remember to always be strong,never let them see you sweat. And every now and then show him something strange. Then and only then is when you will have that man were you want him.
2006-06-12 00:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by mothers finest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you need him at all. Get a divorce and find someone who appreciates you. Life is too short to be miserable. I have a friend who had a husband like that. She worked and cooked and kept house and lost weight and did everything to please him, but all he did was pick at her and tell her she was lucky he stayed with her. Their son hated when his father came home. She finally divorced him after 15 years, met a new guy after two years, and is now very happily married to a wonderful guy who her son prefers to his father. The kid just turned 16 on Saturday and his stepfather gave him a used pick up truck. She said she is sorry she waited as long as she did to leave him. By the way, her ex says she ruined his life, but she just ignores him. It is emotional abuse and it is used to control the other person. I suggest you get some therapy to see why you allowed yourself to stay in that situation and so you don't end up with another one like your husband.
2006-06-12 00:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by kadel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it all wwrong it is what was rong with him. If you have been a good and true wife and he treats you like that he is a # 1 rated *** hole and you don't need him. I don't even know you and I can tell that you are at least worthy of love and respect. Please for your sake kick his *** to the curb, than find a way to get your self esteem and self worth back because living with that kind of abuse I know you feel like your nothing. (I've been there my self) But if you get some help and never look back it will make you a stronger person. Never let not only a man but any one tell you what your not. Good luck with future.
2006-06-12 02:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, what in the hell is wrong with you? You should not change for any man. That's why I love my woman. She has no problem telling me to shut the f**k up if I am lipping off. You need to be strong or you will eventually end up in the exact same relationship again. You don't need a guy who is going to walk all over you. Be strong.
2006-06-11 23:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason i don't know why you didn't leave him yrs. ago you both have issues. No one deserves to be treated like Sh__ . You should be happy with your partner if your not move on.
2006-06-11 23:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing was wrong with you nothing at all it was him and your so much better than he could ever be and he could not except it or deal with it your better off with out him ....don't ever let a man get to you like that you need to be happy for you and that it there are allot of good men out there who will except you for the woman you are and be glad to have you but it takes time to find that special guy and some time you got to go through allot of bad to get to the good hang in there and may god be with you
2006-06-11 23:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is NOTHING wrong with you and don't let him make you feel there is. He is insecure about himself, so he wants to make you feel bad about yourself. This is mental abuse. Don't stand for it. Tell him to get help or your out the door. You deserve better. Believe me, I put up with over 30 years of that sh*t, don't be like me. Good luck.
2006-06-11 23:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with you. you did what you could. that's how i felt for a long time then realized it wasn't me it was just we did not see eye to eye anymore and only one of us wanted to save the marriage and that was me but he gave up. So , he probably thinks the same or he has somebody but ask him and found out then . "Good Luck'
2006-06-11 23:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by babygirl29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband probably agreed bc he doesn't want to be with you. Thats probably why he treated you badly. My question to you is Why would u cared if he wanted a divorce too if he treated u like Crap? I rather be happy by myself or with someone else than miserable together.
2006-06-11 23:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with you, its him. he doesnt want that, he wants a wife to be lazy like him. he doesnt respect you or even want to be married to you. he is making excuses so you two wont be married. you are better than him and he is worthless, continue to work hard and be the best at what you do, you dont need him and you know it.
2006-06-11 23:48:11 · answer #11 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋