it changed. Im not sure what happened I was suppost to be in there weddings. example one asked me to step down from being a brides maid never spoke to her after her wedding. And one didnt even ask me to attend her wedding, and we were close and she said dont worry you will be in my wedding. Im having trouble letting these feeling (mad sad angry spitful bitter) I tought I was a good person what went wrong. Im not sure if I should even speak to them again. We have friends in common where I might run in to them. NOT even sure if I should go where thay will be.......
2006-06-11 16:35:44 · 7 answers · asked by hotbuggie2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is hard when friends get married - I know when I got married I felt like all my friends kind of abandoned me (I wonder if they felt I ditched them?). The friend that asked you to step down may have had in-law pressure to include someone else - and she may have felt embarassed about it and is afraid to call you.
It is hard to let these feelings go - the best thing I can tell you to do is to sit quietly and envision each of your friends happy - really happy. Then do the same for yourself. If is impotant to rid yourself of negative feelings for your own health and peace of mind and I found that after about 3 sessions I was able to start to release my angry feelings. After all - you girls had a good long run together, right? If nothing else you all deserve to part on good terms and to still love each other and treasure the time you had together, right?
And as far as seeing these girls - my advice to you is you just do your thing! Often times after marriage you stop hanging out with the old crowd or in the old places - but the time you coordinate the schedule, move into the new house and whatever you are happy to just enjoy your new home and nest a bit. That's cool - that's what they are supposed to do. When you see them, be happy for them and look forward to the time when you will settle down (but don't waste one more minute of being young and single on being angry at them - that part of your life is over much too quickly).
2006-06-11 16:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a similar problem with my friends. My maid of honor just up and told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore and has not spoken to me since. I would just not speak to them anymore. You don't need friends like that. As to the friends in common, just don't talk about the other people. If they are there, ignore them or just make you excuses and leave. I would explain to the mutual friend though so they know it isn't them. What I did discover from all this is that I had more friends than I realized. There are several people that I wasn't friends with because of this person and now these same people are really great friends of mine.
2006-06-11 23:41:23 · answer #2 · answered by damn_sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like they weren't very good friends to you in the first place
could it be that someone has been putting out the hard word on you? and none of your friends has had the decency to come to you and ask your side of it? it may not even have anything to do with something you did or said just someone Else's imagination
if i were you i would find yourself another set of friends who treat you with more integrity than this set who seem (nice and familiar yes but) selfish at best
2006-06-11 23:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are following someone suggestion, this person have not done anything to you, is your friend individually, not because the other has problem, you have to join, your friend does not have to stop you to be someone friend because they have not get along lately.
2006-06-11 23:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by flowermieses@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry...i've been through what u've been experience now...i understand how u feel right now!but u hav to get on with ur life..there's no point to think what they hav done to u, or what hav u done wrong...believe me,along the way,u will meet new friends that u deserve better!just keep on believing in urself...and in my case,i'll keep up telling myself that, i live alone in this world, i cant put any hope to anyone,n i dont care if i hav to live alone till da day that i die!! -ur best friends is ur worst enemy-
2006-06-12 00:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by idiotguidebook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise person once told me that if you have more friends than you can count on your one hand, then they are not really your friends.
2006-06-11 23:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty rude to me. Get better friends
2006-06-11 23:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋