I dont get paid, have more hours on the job than a "real"job, Im losing out on a pension, have to ask hubby for money and have no time to myself...my man doesnt think this is a real job.
2006-06-11 16:35:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men don't think it is a "real job" because most of them have never had to do it themselves. Don't let that get you down though. What you are doing is very important.
This is a link you may want to go to, then you will have an actual number of what kind of job it is to show him.
2006-06-11 16:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by OklahomaSweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SAHM isn't a real job because it doesn't fit the "job" definition. You do not have a boss, deadlines, overtime, travel, coworkers, etc. You do not have a job, you volunteer to your family's own charitable trust. It's no different than if you chose to volunteer at a hospice (exept then you might have a boss, but still...). If you want me to believe that you actually have a job (I am a man) then change professions, and use the extra money to pay for child care / house keeping / etc. What you are getting instead of a salary, 401K, etc. is time woth your children and more QUALITY time with your husband, which I believe is just as -- if not more -- valuable than whatever salary you are foregoing.
2006-06-11 23:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by what? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. They see women staying at home as having it easy, being able to be lazy and watch soap operas all day and go shopping, etc.
2. You aren't getting paid.
3. He hasn't had to stay at home with the kid(s) for more than a few minutes/hours.
My remedy (if at all possible): have him stay at home with the kids--alone--while you take a vacation somewhere when he takes a vacation from his job or on a weekend. Make it last for a couple days, a week, whatever. I bet that by the time you get back, he will have a new view of everything. But, for this to work, you would have to write up a schedule of things that have to be done daily, etc, and make up a list of rules (can't hire a sitter, kids have to take naps at certain times, have to eat at certain times, etc) and have him sign this. Also, have someone 'check' on him to be sure that he isn't getting a sitter and is doing what he is supposed to. I bet he will think totally different!
2006-06-11 23:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the person who made the comment about "having a real job" and "performing her family duties." OMG!
Family duties? lol... you're a moron.
As far as having a real job... I had a real job, I worked there for 12 years and I worked DAMN hard. Now that I'm disabled from an injury I received ON THAT JOB and have to stay home with the kids... I only WISH I had a job to go to! You think going to a "regular" job wouldn't be a welcome break?! Jesus.
I've never worked so hard in my life, and you never could.
2006-06-11 23:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Yur Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a job, but that's NOT to say it isn't a full time duty.
job
A regular activity performed in exchange for payment, especially as one's trade, occupation, or profession.
But don't get me wrong, it is definitely hard work, but you're not going to get fired (unless social services come take away your children, in which case, you have much more important things to worry about), you won't get promoted (or demoted for that matter), you don't deal with co-workers (kids don't count, they are not your equals), and atmosphere is generally more relaxed (not less stressful, just less formal).
Again, this is not to say it is easy work, it's just different. Men know that but they just can't say it's a job because the two things are inherently different.
This answer brought to you by a man.
2006-06-12 01:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Gavind R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men do not think stay at home moms work. But if they had to do the job they never make it through the day.
2006-06-11 23:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by usserydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a labor of love, not a profession Oh ya SAHM means Stay at
home malcontent
God Dam, some of you broads really convolute each other with very destructive advice
But I guess misery loves company
2006-06-11 23:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by ricosuarve 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how about all the people that do your job and still work a real job to boot? how much free time would you have if you worked a full time job and had to take care of your family duties?
2006-06-11 23:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by truthteller 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assert yourself in your marriage and he will respect you. You have to respect yourself and what you do enough not to let anyone else disrespect you. I have an easier time working 12hrs. on my job than I do taking care of my house and kids. I love them dearly but they are far more WORK than he will see on his JOB.
2006-06-12 03:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ken 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks it not a job then allow him to do it on weekends and you work. He will change his mind soon after that. Mothers who stay at home to raise their children need to be told how much they are appreciated.
2006-06-11 23:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋