would u dump ur girlfriend for being raped even though it wasn't her fault?
my bf said he might dump me if I ever got raped because I wouldnt be "clean". i thought that was really stupid. what is your opinion?
2006-06-11 16:32:40 · 44 answers · asked by Jam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok i asked my bf that because we were talking about some girl that got raped & her bf dumped her. And my bf thought that it was ok. so i asked him if he would do that 2 me & he said yes.
so pls stop saying i asked him a stupid question its not like i just woke up one morning and deeiced to ask him that!
2006-06-11 16:43:42 · update #1
Well my gf was raped, and to me, she still is clean, and i love her just as much as i always have, because it wasn't her fault, even if i had wwanted to leave her i couldnt. She means to much to me for me just to walk away for something like that. She means the world to me and she, or any other girl, shouldn't mean nething less to the person who loves them.
2006-06-11 16:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 3⤋
Love between 2 people is a relation that does not matter the physical charecterstics or necessities. If your boyfriend tells that he will dump you because you got raped even tough it was not your fault, there are only 2 reasons for this. The first one that your relationship is still immature and you have not reached the limits of completeness, its just casual or physical in other words. if 2 people are in love they do not care about the physical part of the relationship its the feeling of completeness that matters to them. The 2nd thing may be that hes so insecure that, he feels he cannot come out of the mental truma of you getting raped. see people rape you everyday without even touching you, but you are not dumped everyday are you? think you should be more into that relationship and also he should work on the same constructively but that's if we give maximum benifit of doubt to your boyfriend.
If things dont work just discuss the matter with him calmly dont jump to conclusions unless and until you are very sure about the facts. But if your boyfriend is a dumbo not to understand things of heart then he does not have any rights to stay in.
Take care!
2006-06-11 17:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the most horrid thing I've heard, that would be so emotionally crushing to be further hurt in a time of desperate need of re-assurance. That attitude is just uncomprehensionable.
I would dump him for saying such a thing.
Good Luck
2006-06-11 16:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by foxtel_iq 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a terrible boyfriend. Im sorry to say. If he loves you, he would be there to support you no matter what you do. I know my man would be there if I had a disease or not because he loves me. And even if that did happen, you could just get tested for any stds. I would dump him. You deserve better.
2006-06-11 16:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by jkeys00 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If some is raped, what needs the most is support and caring, not avoidance. If you really love someone who has gone under something as hard as this, you should support her. If you just walk away, it is beacuse you don't love her as much as you say and you are not mature enough to have a relationship.
2006-06-11 16:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ana Carolina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes pathetic...if your raped its not your fault its the guy that raped you's fault. You could go get a test done to make sure dont have like a std but other than that he shouldnt break up with u because of that someone raped you! thats pathetic in my opinion!
2006-06-11 16:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a stupid thing for him to say. Rape can be difficult on the relationship, but why in the world would he tell you that now? Sounds like he is not supportive.
2006-06-11 16:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by RogerKW 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell ur bf he`s the number one stupid person in the whole universe!
sorry but u should not take him seriously coz that kind of guy is not worthy to be loved..u can find better man and will really love u for who u are..not bcoz ur clean or sumthin..
2006-06-11 16:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
why am i not surprised by the attitude of some people especially mentally immature males no mater the age, ,,it would be cruel to say that sort of thing even in fun, the girl would need a lot of love understanding and guidance from people she could trust. and time a lot f it to begin to come to terms with this outrage.
2006-06-11 18:38:58 · answer #9 · answered by cowsformeatandmilk 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a great question..
After I killed her rapist , i would be Even Closer to her than i was, so i could stop it from happening again.
I have no love for rapists and *** hloles that would ditch a girl for being Raped.
2006-06-11 17:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Blazewing 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why would you even think of being raped? are you up to something that may get you in trouble? Just don't think of it and don't ask ur bf those difficult questions. You never know unless it happens
2006-06-11 16:40:10 · answer #11 · answered by Aaron V 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋