My Girlfriend got upset that I bought her a gift certificate to?

Question

Victoria's secret. Is this normal? She really got insulted..and has ignored me for 2 days!!! should of I bought her a few thongs instead? Im clueless. Please help!

Answer 1

i think what you did was nice, b/c if my bf bought me a gift certificate there, then i'd be fine. moreso fine then if he bought me underwear. ya know? i think it's fine. i'm starting to see your gf is a bit over the top...

Answer 2

Well I think that I would have been insulted also. A gift certificate is very impersonal, and could be appropriate for someone you don't know too well. In my opinion, it's never appropriate for a girlfriend/boyfriend at all. If you weren't going out with the girl for too long and you weren't sure what she would have liked, you should have bought her jewelry (keep that in mind next time). Also, Victoria Secret may not have been appropriate for someone you just met. And if it wasn't for someone you were recently dating, then she may have felt it was impersonal, like after all the time you've spent together, you still don't know what she would like.

Next time, try jewelry (if she's into it), or something sentimental. You could also try getting something personalized that she uses often. Be creative.

Answer 3

Some possibilities:

She thinks since you got a certificate, you went the easy route and didn't put any thought into the gift.

She thinks you're saying her underwear/pajamas isn't sexy enough and she needs something different.

She thinks that YOU are getting the real gift out of this, and not her!

Or the likely reason, drumroll please...she's being a total *****. If she won't even tell you why she's mad, there's another clue. It's very immature to get mad and not tell someone why, but most women don't want to feel like a ***** so we make men guess. I would ask her, "Are you mad because you feel like I didn't put enough time into choosing your gift" or something like that, then she may open up.

Answer 4

Well, maybe she wanted you to pick her out something special and just doesn't like gifts of money or certificate type because it is not personal enough.
Or she could be offended that you are trying to tell her that you don't like her taste in lingerie by this gesture.
Or she was thinking that you were going to give her something else that she has wanted really bad. Did she give you any hints?? Send her some flowers and maybe it will soften her up. Ask her what can you do to make it up to her.
I just ran it by my man and his answer was that you should have got the cert.for YOUR BIRTHDAY! As he feels it is more of a gift for yourself...interesting point.

Answer 5

Just a few tips for the future:

Undies, bras, or any kind of lingerie are not a good idea unless your woman specifically asks for them. Yes, we like to wear pretty, lacy things, but for the most part, we like to wear them when we want to and if we want to, not because we feel we have to. Almost every woman I know, myself included, has been upset at receiving that type of gift because whether it's meant that way or not, I think what it says to us is, "Here baby, this is a gift for me, disguised as a gift for you!" Do you see what I mean?

Everyone has been really good at listing the various reasons why she could be upset, so I won't relist those. I have been married long enough to know that it is really really hard for a man to pick out the right gift for a woman. We can drop hints all day long, but I think it's hard for a man to tell the difference between the stuff we see and think is cute and the stuff we see and point out because we would like it as a gift. There's no sense in blaming anyone, because I think it is just a difference in how we are wired.

So here's my suggestion: Next time, tell her you'd like to take her out and buy her something special. Make a date of it. Take her shopping and out to lunch. Sit patiently while she tries on a dozen pairs of jeans, and be supportive and helpful and engaged in the trying on process. Don't complain when she goes to a different store, or ten different stores, looking for the perfect thing that she wants. Don't look at your watch, or complain about how bored you are. Make it about her, and about helping her find the very special thing she wants, whatever it is. When she finally finds it, compliment her on how great she looks in it, and pay for it graciously. As you walk through the mall, carry her bag for her. Tell her you cannot wait for her to wear it so you can see her in it. Make her feel special, and loved, and appreciated. If you do that, I am betting that whatever she buys will be just a bonus, and the real thing she will enjoy was the fact that you went to the mall and took her shopping.

Answer 6

Well, for me, if someone gave me a gift certificate, I'd be a little upset with it too. Gift certificates are so impersonal, and by buying one for your girlfriend, it may show her that you don't really know her. It's not the gift certificate itself, it's the fact that you got her an impersonal present. Next time, if there is a next time, buy her something she wants, and if you have to flat out ask her, do it.

Answer 7

Perhaps she is a lady and is offended by the type of garments they sell there. Buying underwear for a woman is not very smart unless you know her extremely well. Jewelry is a much better idea. Tell her you're sorry and offer to buy her a more suitable gift. Forget about the thongs!!

Answer 8

Maybe it wasn't where you got it...
It could be the fact that you got her a gift certificate instead of taking the time to find her a gift. I hate gift certificate and it's just a easy way out...
It's like giving her money...UGH!

But now you know don't get a girl a gift certificate. Some girls don't like them and some do. You got to guess on that one.

Answer 9

she is probably upset because she though u would have put more time into buying her something. when u buy a gift card (no matter where it is for) people might get insulted because they know u didn't take the time to go look around and buy what they like. a gift card takes like 5 min to buy. but buying a present takes at least 2 hours just to get the right things. get what I'm trying to say?

Answer 10

It kind of depends on how old you are, but when you give someone, say, a shirt, you would want to see her wear it, right? You're basically telling her you want to sleep with her, which many people would find offensive.

Or, it could have been because of the lack of emotional value in a gift card. In that case, choose something more personal next time.

Answer 11

Maybe the problem wasn't what store you bought the certificate for, but instead how much you spent. Gift certificates can be dangerous, sometimes its best not to let people know how much or little we're spending on them. Too little and we're being cheap, too much and they get freaked out.