How come marriage doesn't last these days?

Question

I mean people from our grandparents age stayed married forever. Yet todays couple barly last any time at all. What happened to commitment?

Answer 1

Well I think it comes from divorcing being so easy to get now a days. Back in the day you had to have a good reason besides incompatibility to divorce. Also there is no stigma in being divorced as well. Back in our grandparents age you were looked down upon if your divorced. So when there were problems married couples made it a point to work out their problems and communicate as opposed to running out and getting a divorce.

Also people have a hard time thinking beyond today. They don't stop and think. They know they are in love after a couple of months and feel the need to rush to get married, so the run off to places like Vegas and get married. Than a year or two down the road they realize oh wait we shouldn't have gotten married at all. People are so in the now as opposed to thinking about how their decisions affect their future.

As I stated before people don't work out their problems. If there are problems they either rush to file the paperwork or they go out and cheat. I think a lot of people lack the communication skills in order to talk problems out and fix them as well as lacking the ability to compromise.

Answer 2

We are in the age of the microwave generation where everything has to be quick, no waiting in line etc. and
a good relationship, marriage, or just a good friendship requires time ,commitment, and understanding just to start. and like most things worth having they get better with time, and with that you can go very far. A bad analogy would be a good meal do you want one that took time and patience to prepare or something from the drive thru. Some people lack the patience and time to realize what they are missing.. JuJu-- good question

Answer 3

Well there are a lot of reasons. For one, if you ever hear the term "irreconcilable differences" when people get divorced it's kind of a cop out. That basically means "Ok we can't stand each other and we're not going to go figure out our issues." The second is people get married for all the wrong reasons. And here's another factor that's tied into our current culture, sex is very casual. 50 years ago, that wasn't the case at all. The U.S and most of Western Civ. marry for love, and marriages are not arranged like in other countries.

I'm not saying society should go back to no premarital sex and arranged marriages, but perhaps their ideals should be in the backs of our minds.

Answer 4

Because it means NOTHING to a lot of people these days. They divorce someone just as easily as they "break up" with a boyfriend of 2 weeks. It just doesn't mean anything to them. They have been indoctrinated with the "I deserve to be happy". "I, I, I".

They don't think about the actual vows they are making to the other person and to God.

They read magazines with people leaving each other ALL the time. It's glamourized. They watch TV shows with people leaving each other. They sit and listen to people complain about their spouses..and jump right in with their tales...rather than walking away and respecting the marriage.

It's horrible and I don't know why some people get married in the first place.

Answer 5

People tend to run at the first sign of difficulty. Instead of going through the bad times and working things out they just figure "oh well lets get a divorce." It's a shame people view marriage that way and hopefully in the future people will change and see it as a sacred committment.

Answer 6

I blame it all on microwave ovens.

The need for instant gratification in our society has ruined a lot of the great traditions of the past. If I can't 'fix' my spouse in a year or two, I'll find another. If my child is bored, plop them in front of a DVD. If I need a family dinner, stick it in the microwave.

Commitment takes time. Sadly, I think too many people just decide that they want a microwave marriage instead of a long, slow roasting one.

Answer 7

Marriage does not last becasue our society has changed. We are so busy thinking that I lifes are supposed to be like the ones on the movie screens, (It's called acting people, its not for real). Realtiy is that when you are in a marriage its okay not to feel passion everyday, we are such a dramatic society. We also have lost faith. We don't really believe in anything, we dont trust ourselves and therefore trust others less.

Answer 8

people get married for the wrong reasons and are caught up in the heat and excitment of the moment, most don't wait to get to know each other first, end up pregnant and think marriage is the answer.....wrong. Commitment is still around.

Answer 9

Because people dont know what the defination of love is. The Greeks had three definitons for love. Erois Philla and Agape Agape is giving expecting nothing in return. the love of God, The love of a mother, The love of two people in love that will last through eternity.

Answer 10

Because of the commonality of divorce, people are taking the easy way out of things when shet blows over rather than working together to make it work out. It is bullshit. it's the main reason I'm so skepticle about marriage and if I'll ever even do it.