why do people think that just because your young (im 19 almost 20) that u cant raise a child. we want a baby and i know we could do it. u have these really young kids having kids that can do it and maybe some cant. some people think im too young to be thinking about having kids but i think i can do it and i know my b/f wont leave me. yes were not maried but we love each and can do it if it happens. we want kid someday and if it happens soon then it was a chose we made and we have talked about this for a year. we both know what we want. just have faith in people and i have faith in myself if it does happen.
2006-06-11 15:16:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
anything esle email me and i will tell u. thank you
2006-06-11 15:17:14 · update #1
his family said that its our choose if we want a baby its our life. marriage is in our future someday. i know what i want in life and im with him.
2006-06-11 15:20:25 · update #2
i live with my b/f in an apartment so i know what its like to pay rent and bills and things with living on your own. i have babysat my friends baby since he was only a few months old. plus i used to babysit a infant for the whole summer. so i know what its like to do things like that.
2006-06-11 16:21:21 · update #3
The reason most people think that young people cannot raise a child is that many young people are immature and irresponsible, which leads them to become pregnant in the first place.
You may be mature, but are you really ready for something that will require yours and your boyfriend's attention 24/7? Are you really sure that your boyfriend will want to stick around and you are ready to give up a life of relative freedom to devote to raising a child?
At 19, you have hardly experienced life yourself. You haven't finished college yet, haven't had a job, haven't had the experience of having to pay your own bills, haven't had half your paycheck go to taxes and other deductions, haven't had to pay your own rent, haven't had to buy your own things (on a salary limited by your income -- no money from parents). You haven't had the opportunity to save for some things you may want: a car, a house, jewelry, other nice things -- OR EVEN A WEDDING.
Raising a child is expensive, both financially and emotionally. All your money will go to raising the child, you will not be able to just go out and have fun whenever you want to.
The most important reason to delay having a child is wouldn't you want your child to have the best upbringing and opportunities at a happy and flourishing life as possible? Wouldn't you want to be at the point where your personal and financial life is in better condition so the child can be raised in the best manner possible? I would urge you to wait -- you will not miss out on any of the joys of raising a child, it would be easier in fact since it will be easier financially. Unfortunately, it takes more than faith to raise a child.
2006-06-11 15:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the majority of single mothers are under the age of 18 and that is why you get all the flack. If you think you can do it, then why not do this. Babysit for a week but do not give the child back to the mother/father. For a family member. And see if this is something you can do. good luck, and remember, kids need both mom and dad in their lives. Faith has nothing to do with raising a child. You can have all the faith you want, but having a good job, the ability to have insurance for your child, affordability. Kids aren't cheap, and kids aren't throw aways.
2006-06-11 15:23:56 · answer #2 · answered by teambargain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister had a baby at 20 in 2000 (girl,4yr now), another in 2001, (boy,3yr now) and another in 2005(girl,1yr now). Plus her boyfriend (soon to be husband) has two kids, a girl who is 5 and a boy who is also 3, exactly 6hrs older than my sister's boy.
It's almost like having two Set of twins and a baby for how close the four's ages are. If anyone thinks one or two kids is hard to take care of then try being my sister for a day!
If you really want a baby, then I say go ahead and do it. My sister gets by everyday with 5 of them I think you can get by with one.
2006-06-11 19:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be prepared to give up alot like your freedom to go anywhere you want whenever you want. No more just thinking about you and your boyfriend because now your babay comes first. If you and your boyfriend want to go out somewhere and you dont have a babysitter, well guess waht you arent going out. If you want to buy this really cute outfit but your baby needs diapers then it looks like you wont be getting that cute outfit. Be prepared to live on a tight budget. Just keep this in mind.
2006-06-11 17:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way. Do you like to become and be called a grandma at age 38? then if for any reason your relationship did not work out, nobody is willing to date a granny.
2006-06-11 15:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by honeybun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why you're asking this question if you already know what you want? My advice is to get married first, make sure there's a stable, committed home for the baby.
2006-06-12 14:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋