I have become a full time babysitter for my sister and neice but never agreed to the arrangement. When I mention that I cant or dont want to do it they guilt trip me about not being there for them. They used to watch my kids occasionally but have not had to in months. I dont want to hurt thier feelings but I have a life I need to live and cant do that with five kids with me every day. I cant even leave the house because there is not enough room in the car for everyone. I am not saying I will never watch the kids I just cant do it all the time. I love my family but am feeling used.
2006-06-11 14:56:23 · 5 answers · asked by ettennej79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to be honest with your sister. Tell her that you enjoy watching your nieces/nephews but that you can't do it all the time. If your sister acts like you never do it make sure you mark it on the calender when they were there and just point out days that you have watched the kids.
Explain to her that you have things to do in your own life that you can't do while watching so many kids at once. Also explain to her that your car isn't big enough for everyone and that you have to stay home when watching all the kids. Make sure you tell her how much you love her and her kids, and that you don't mind watching them once in a while, but that you can't watch them as much as you've been watching them recently.
Whether or not she might be offended or upset is on her. She might get angry - but let it go and it will pass. Just be honest and loving thats all you can do.
2006-06-11 15:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you charging double- like $12 instead of $6, AND if she does not pay then tell her you want $6 a hour. If she is going to work and does not have alot of money, then $3 for 1 kid, $4 for the 2nd and $5 for the 3rd. I am a college student and a neighbor babysits by 3 kids for $5 dollar, because I am poor...lol But you family SHOULD not take advantage of you. OH when I leave my baby over there and the other kids are at school she charge me $3
2006-06-11 15:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that for a couple of years. I worked full time, and my weekends spent caring for friends and relatives kids. Because I enjoyed being home on weekends, I think everyone assumed I had nothing else to do. Fact is I had lots to do at home, even if I chose to do nothing, it should have been my time to do so. I too felt guilty when I started saying no, but the moms did understand more than I thought they would.....I thought everyone would be mad at me, but no one was. I over exagerated their reactions in my mind and was scared at first to say no, but we are all one big happy family still!
2006-06-11 15:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by ginger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being used. You need to let your sister know how you feel. Let her know that although you love the kids, you want to take the weekend off or you want to go out would she mind watching your kids for a change?
2006-06-11 15:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by rothe_jabbuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them you cant do it because you have other things to do and you have to look after your own kids and dont let them use you any more only babysitt if they really need you to not just when its convienent for them
2006-06-11 15:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋