I'm like totally infatuated with my friend's (& prom date) father. I'm 19 & his father is 49, I know many people think that is weird & gross. But he is really good looking, a lawyer, very intelligent, and we get along wonderfully. I I love when he hugs me and looks into my eyes, and when we share food...I'm not sure what I should do. Just forget about him...however I enjoy kind of flirting with him. Please don't repsond with 'gross. yuck. etc.' this is not a childish matter. I wonder if one day when I'm older if a relationship could be a possibility? Thank you.
2006-06-11 14:38:30 · 13 answers · asked by preppy_in_pink21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm in college now so i don't really see my friend. & his father & i always have a lot to talk about, since I want to be an attorney too. & no, i'm not a gold digger.
2006-06-11 15:05:58 · update #1
You used the word infatuated, which means this could possibly be a passing fancy. Try to imagine if you could seriously be involved with this guy, who is old enough to be you father. Another consideration is your friend/prom date. If you act on these feelings that you have right now, how would it impact the relationship between yourself and your prom date/friend.
When you are older your taste in men will change. The guys I used to think were cute are kind of gross now. By the time you are older, "Hot Dad" could have problems such as erectile dysfunction and receding hairline. Are you ready for all that? What if you and him have nothing in common? He might not enjoy an Ashton Kutcher movie or watching MTV.
Besides, the time you waste trying to date "Hot Dad" might block you from meeting a cute guy closer to your own age. The decision is ultimately yours, but keep in mind the consequences and what could happen if "Hot Dad" decides to act on your advances. Are you ready for that?
2006-06-11 14:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by ms_diva_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does you friend/prom date know about this? He might be extremely unconfortable about it or he could be ok with it. 30 years apart is a big difference. I think you shouldn't go for it. but what do i know. Make a list of pros and cons. if the cons max out the pros, look for someone else, there are plenty of fish in the sea. think about what could happen in the future... if the relationship last would you still be interested?
2006-06-11 14:43:52 · answer #2 · answered by tofu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no different for obsessing with your teacher. Perhaps you have very little experience with guys and it does not take much for an older man to impress you. Don't kid yourself, stay away from that house and go find someone your own age or at least find someone who is mentally mature...Do u ever wonder what he sees in you beside being a piece of fresh meat? The fact that you flirt with him boost his ego that he still got it?
2006-06-11 14:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! I think that u shld leave that as a fantasy and not act on it because his son was ur prom date and u gotta think abt how he'll(ur prom date) feel abt it and how it might affect him and everybody involved and the age thing is a big thing because u r still young and u trust me there is so much out there to do than to be tied down to an older man cos that want they r looking for. stop da flirting and he's a dirty man if he's flirting back cos HIS SON WAS UR PROM DATE!!! if he's flirting that shld be red flag for u to walk away. good luck
2006-06-11 14:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by lovinmommihood 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally u nderstand. My husband.. (common law, and my friends dad) Is 12 years older then me. He is great. age realy doesnt matter providing you are of sound mind when making your decision. You are of legal age.. Well where i am from you are. If he is intersted in you to then i say go for it. I love my man, never thought that it would be possible. Never thought he be interested in me at all. But we have the greatest relationship and love so much. I wish you the best of luck and say follow your heart.. i did mine. *hugs*
2006-06-11 14:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mindy a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of funny, but I think you should just leave it as a fantasy.
You don't wanna be taking care of a 70 year old man, when youre like 30. Atleast if I were you, I wouldn't want to.
2006-06-11 14:42:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
is he married?
well hes almost 50 so you might wanna consider that too. ur not even 20 yet. i dont know, this doesnt sound like a good match but hey, u never kno
2006-06-11 14:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 19--go for it! It's not like you have to marry him. Get it out of your system!
2006-06-11 14:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay but these types of relationships does not last longer, so think of it and then only go on.
2006-06-11 14:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by satish5205 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are growing up like a real woman.
2006-06-11 14:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋