2006-06-11 14:34:21 · 11 answers · asked by Germain 77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i do love him and would love to get married but i dont want him to feel obligated to marry me
2006-06-11 14:46:35 · update #1
well, i agree with you totally.... you should not get married just because you have a child with someone..... a child doesn't make you love another person.... the relationship will only become worst in time... do what's best for you first.... i feel like to be a mother and a wife you should always love yourself first.... take the time out to see if marriage is what you both want.... maybe he already wanted to marry you but now he feels like it's more of a reason.... good luck and congratulations on the baby....
2006-06-11 14:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by slimchuckie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not comfortable with it then don't do it. Never let anyone talk you into something you're not ready for.
I married my first husband because I was pregnant. We moved the date up 6 months because of the baby. The marriage didn't last a year. I believe if we had left the date where it was we would still be married today. We rushed things, we should have waited, baby or not.
2006-06-11 21:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry for Love,not to do the so called "right thing".As the old saying goes "2 wrongs don't make a right".A child deserves to be raised in a happy enviroment & marrying for the wrong reason could actually hurt the child in the long run.
2006-06-11 21:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married because you two have a kid together isn't good for you or the kid. Because the kid will grow up seeing that you and possibly your partner aren't happy, so your child gets a somewhat distorted view of what a relationship should be, that you should stay with someone even not because you're happy but just because you have a kid. If you're not happy enough with this guy that you want to stay with him, don't marry him. But do try to be friends with him for the child's sake, although it's better you guys aren't married, it would be bad if you guys didn't get along in front of the child.
2006-06-11 21:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by dogluver8906 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me and trust me in the long run it is worse for the child. Let the child grow up knowing that you are both friends and there for them. Sometimes gettting married for the wrong reasons puts stress on yourself and the way you raise your kids. Try raising the baby as bf / gf if is works then get married.
2006-06-11 21:42:54 · answer #5 · answered by peaches31377 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I got pregnant when my now fiance were just bf and gf I would marry him if I loved him and could see myself with him for life.
2006-06-11 21:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u shld be grateful that u have someone who cares about u a lot and would be happy to start a family. yes he might pop the question in the midst of this circumstance but if u love him and are a hundred percent sure that he fels the same about u then go for it. what do u have to loose but ur happiness and family. good luck
2006-06-11 21:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by lovinmommihood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are pregnant does not mean that you have to get married because you can do anything that you set out to do.
2006-06-11 21:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry just b/c u get prego... marry if your in love and u want to be w/ him 4 the rest of ur life
2006-06-11 21:40:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mickey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never marry just because you are pregnant or have a kid. and people who are married, and unhappy and are staying together fo rthe kids is not healthy for the kids.
2006-06-11 21:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋