I love my man half to death and then some. But he's suddenly become this "all about you" overly clingy guy and its weirding me out. Maybe it's just a silly phase? Maybe this is his new personality? What do I do to get this figured out? If he keeps this up I'm going to have to get a restraining order! But seriously, i love him dearly. Should I talk to him or just let it run its path??
2006-06-11 14:13:07 · 8 answers · asked by Ash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
megan makes a good point. thanks! i've been getting hit on by some local guys and stuff so maybe hes juss trying to make the gap between himself and them. which is silly and cute and the reason i love him
2006-06-12 06:51:34 · update #1
At some point it might mean that feels a little bit insecure about himself and wants to be with you more often than you might even realize. He doesn't want to be without you and is afraid of loosing you. There are stages in anyone's life when anyone (even you and me) can get like that. Give it time and it might pass all by itself. Just don't tell him not to do that or even take him to a psychologist, otherwise you might drive him further away from you and he'll be afraid to come over to you. Let him be and be there with him whenever he needs you. Tell him you love him and care for him, and let him know how proud you are of him and how happy he makes you. That might ease his anxiety and make him feel like he's needed and you've noticed him.
If you don't know how to aproach him, sit down and talk to him. Ask him what he'd like to do today, communicate with him about anything, and if you'd like you can get straight to the point of asking him, "Is there anything that's worrying/upsetting you?" Let him know that you're there for him and want for him to be happy, he'll be more than happy to talk back to you.
In other words:
Give him support, love, care and udnerstanding of him going through any changes that he might feel are happening to him. He's a loving and caring individual who even though is the strongest man in the world on the good-hair day, right now needs you more than ever to be him and guide him through the rough times that he himself can't quite understand. Love him regardless of the clinginess, be patient and show him that you still care for him, and in no time he'll be back to be his wonderful and adorable self :) Allow him to be this way, because later on when he'll be okay, your bonds might even get more stronger than they ever were before. And when you'll be in the same situation, he'll be the one to take care of you and nurture you in your difficult time, and he'll never leave your side just like you didn't leave him to be by himself. He'll be there with you no matter what returning and sharing with you the same love and care that you showed him when he was feeling down.
Best of luck and take care :) Both of you have your whole lives ahead of you, don't let it pass you by just because one of you was feeling the need to be clingy towards the other.
2006-06-11 14:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what is going on. It might just be a phase. Are other guys hitting on you? Or, are you hitting on other guys. If he continues after you talk to him, and its unconfortable, tell him you need a break. If you fell in love with him and he changed, theres not much you can do
2006-06-11 14:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with this dude because often times people go through a major change somewhere in their relationship. This is because their need to impress you in the pre-dating period caused them to be someone they were not and now that the need to impress has passed you will see who he really is.
2006-06-11 14:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by Paiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you go and get in order on him ask yourself do you really love him do you think it would change (the way he acts) things will slow down but also talk to him tell him how you feel and see what happens after that
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-11 14:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by rebelgurl_26241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
the best relationship is an honest one
hope u 2 work it out...
2006-06-11 14:20:31 · answer #5 · answered by genuine♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should confront your beloved about this. Explain that you are uncomfortable, and you would prefer for it to stop.
2006-06-11 14:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely tell him how you feel if you keep it from him to long you just might make a breakup
2006-06-11 14:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you. do get scared and run him off . but tell him how you feel and then show him .
2006-06-11 14:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by amrichardson88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋