It seems like when we are on front of his mother or family he has to always make a joke about me or say something with a smart *** remark. It's almost as if he is trying to make me look bad, and I used to have a lot of problems with his family in the past because his mother made everyone think I was a devil but once they met me everything changed, but it seems like he is always trying to prove something to his family by putting me down or being a smart ***, and showing off
2006-06-11 14:11:38 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just wanted to say we have argued about this before and he has lightened up but still does it it's almost as if he can't help himself. I forgot to mention that he is ashamed or embarrassed or something because he is never affectionate in front of any one in his family
2006-06-11 14:18:37 · update #1
You need to speak to him and ask him what's going on. Tell him you don't appreciate him putting you down in front of his family to try to prove something. Be honest and explain how you feel and ask him calmly why is he constantly putting you down.
People that love each other (especially married partners) should speak highly about their mate all the time, especially around family members and friends. Even if there is a problem or a dispute between the both of you. Just talk to him and really communicate with him. Maybe he doesn't realize, odd as that sounds. Regardless, nothing will be resolved unless you speak up. Good luck!
2006-06-11 14:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Lily♥ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, talk with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him that if he does it again, you will do it right back at him or you will walk out.
Second, he is not respecintg you. He needs to learn what respect is (look it up and tell him, and maybe even make a list of what respecting others/you means to you).
I know that my fiance and I joke to and about each other at home, in front of friends and family, etc, but we also do it respectively so we don't hurt each other. We know when enough is enough and stop before it gets out of hand. We are also able to tell each other if it does get out of hand (it hasn't yet). But, not everyone can handle this type of relationship of joking around. It depends on each others personalities.
Good luck!
2006-06-11 15:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your husband has some maturity issues. He might be doing it to get a reaction from you or to prove he's in charge. Regardless, there is no reason for such actions. My suggestion to you: DON'T PUT UP WITH IT! Walk out and carefully and calmly explain why you are leaving at that time. I'm sure he'll take time later to apoligize...............another reason; he might be setting up an excuse to leave you. I wish you the best. Examine your own situation.
2006-06-11 14:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by poor daddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us.If he don't change then you be that smart *** and every time he show off with a smart remark,stand up to him and do the same
2006-06-11 14:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by otexasgina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare he put you down in front of his family. Sounds like you need to have a little chat with the hubbie. Tell him to cut it out.
2006-06-11 14:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to stand up for yourself in front of his family and make HIM look bad for once. Give him a taste of his own medicine. He won't do it again. People only do to you what you let them do, so don't let him do this to you, you deserve better.
2006-06-11 18:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is so insecure about his self and it has nothing to do with you. Ask him when he does that do not wait to do it in privacy make sure it is in front of his family. And do not do it in a mean way.
2006-06-11 14:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your husband needs approval from his family so he is using you as a stepping stone to elevate himself in the eyes of his family especially his mother.i think this bloke has unsolved issues with his mum you should kick him to the curb because noone should do that to you no matter who they are.
2006-06-11 14:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by ravhin28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the next time he does it to you in front of his family you will call him out on it in front of everyone..... and do it.... He'll never do it again.
2006-06-11 14:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by e_spehr_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly..i think you should talk to him....and if he still continues shoot back at him with remarks about him...let know how it feels
2006-06-11 14:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica Renee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋