I no longer trust him or what he says and have told him he is not who I thought I was marrying, but he claims he loves me more than anyone else ever in his life......can I ever believe this??? And can liars change?????
2006-06-11 14:09:12 · 18 answers · asked by kathryn j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I've been there. Same thing, lies lies lies but, 'you mean more to me than anyone ever has', it's all bulls..t, he won't change. Go to a compulsive liar web site and read all the letters from people like you,there's 1000's! (it will probably shock you at first, it did me.) Get away as soon as you can because it will take you a long time to put the pieces back together and learn how to trust anybody again. I wish someone would have told me that. Good luck and it's not your fault.
2006-06-11 20:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by hereigoagain 1 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Once a liar, always a liar. I say since you cant trust him,set him up. Set up a trap, you know.. to catch him when he is lying. If your not into revenge then just dump him and tell him to be friends. While your friends, know him more and more to see if he has changed. Might aswell see other men who you can trust. This happened to me. I thought i could trust him again but then i found out that is still a liar. Liars can change but i think you should be friends and get to know eachother more.
2006-06-11 21:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a "BIG" thing that he lie then sometimes its forgivable..Believe me if a guy is a consistent lier even with small things, there is no hope he would change...When he said he loves you more than anyone else, are you convinced that he's not lying? There is more to life than being lied to all the time, gather all your strength and try consider a "divorce". If he says he couldn't live without you, he could be lying.
2006-06-11 21:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by bea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liars can change if they want to and admit they have a problem or if they give their hearts and lives to God and get saved. This is the only way they will ever change and i dont blame you for not trusting him or beleiving anything he has to say. Very sad ineed and i feel really bad for you!
2006-06-11 22:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love you but that does not change the fact he is a compulsive liar. He needs to admit he has a problem and get counseling. If he does not, then your answer is no, he can not, and will not change.
2006-06-11 21:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"he is not who I thought I was marrying" ... indicates he lied to you in the dating process obviously so what makes you think he's going to change now? And if he lied to you to gain your trust and love for marriage then why wouldn't he continue to lie to keep you from leaving. You're going to be listening to lies for the rest of your married life to him.
2006-06-11 21:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your problem, but yes I believe he can change given the right reason and maybe the loss of you would be that reason...That really depends on if you can forgive and ever trust him again, if your thinking you can't it would be better for both of you if you let go..GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-11 21:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by sickinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try counseling, I myself was taught by my dad that a liar will steal from you and a thief will lie to you so be careful.
2006-06-11 21:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I think that he would have to be compelled to change, but most people like that don't want to change until it is too late. Maybe if he thinks that he will lose you he will change, I would definately say something to him about counceling and see what he says to that. Best of luck.
2006-06-11 21:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not if they are compulsive liars and sounds like he is. Sorry.
2006-06-12 01:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋