I love my husband very much. I want him to be part of my life and I want to be part of his. Since we married 6 years ago, he has never baught me anything, not even for christmas. He doesn't talk to me, only to order me around or find out something. He never wants to touch me, only when he wants to. If I talk to him he just yells at me, even if I ask if he would like something to drink. He will not eat anything I cook, even though i am well learned in many cusines. I do the the things that he wants exactly the way he wants and it is never right. If he is on the phone or goes somewhere and I ask who or where he yells at me. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel that I am ready to let him go, but I am affraid. I don't want to be alone, but I am not happy with him and I cannot take it anymore.....what do i do?
2006-06-11 13:57:30 · 13 answers · asked by wayladuley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here's what you do..... Stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful, smart, and have a lot to offer to someone who won't take it for granted or waste it!Then you go through everything you have, decide what to keep and what to get rid of then look for a job and find something that suits self suffiency and kick his sorry *** out or leave!
2006-06-11 14:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by teetee's mommy 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
This is not you at all. Why has he not ever bought you anything if i may ask? This is very sad. He seems to treat you like a slave and house wife instead of the way a woman and wife should be treated and cherished and loved in a marriage. You definitley need to get out as being alone is way better then being with someone and being treated like this! Do you even have any self esteem left at all? Seek counseling and help for this and if you need to talk i am here anytime to talk to you! You do need to let him go and start to get past and heal from all of this pain and agony!
2006-06-11 22:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your relationship like before marriage, or was this an arranged marriage where you hardly knew him before you wed?
He obviously does not respect you, and from the sounds of things he resents you as well.
He has serious issues. I would suggest counselling, but I imagine that would lead to him getting angry once again.
Would it be possible for you to get in touch with any of his family members for support?
2006-06-11 21:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand completely how you feel. Did that for 30 years. Please don't do like I did. You deserve better. Don't worry about being alone. Being alone is alot better than being emotionally abused. You will feel so much better about yourself once you are free from this abuse. It IS abuse. Don't let it continue. It's your choice, stay and continue to be abused or leave and be happier for it.
2006-06-12 01:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are already alone.Go to a lawyer & check your options.Being alone is better than being misreable with someone.I learned that the hard way.
2006-06-11 21:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am about to sound like Ann Landers or Dear Abby but have your tried counseling? If he won't go with you, go by yourself. You deserve better than that.
2006-06-11 21:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOoooo girl,, sounds like your nothing more than his housekeeper.
I don't know what culture you are from, but surely there is a better life for you than this.
This is not a marraige at all.
I am sorry for you.
2006-06-11 21:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Troy. Besides that, if your husband loved you he wouldnt treat you the way he does. You deserve better, go find it!!
2006-06-11 21:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do....LEAVE HIM!!! Don't be anyone's doormat. He sounds like a real d**k. In a relationship you must have communication. You're there for his convience. Screw that. Leave him and live your life for you not him.
2006-06-11 21:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely is not you. It's time for marriage counselling fro you guys. If that doesn't wake him up it's time to move on my dear!
2006-06-11 21:04:06 · answer #10 · answered by mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋