Previously I had asked 4 anyones help on trying to 4get my exboyfriend of 5 yrs. I know he's cheated on me which he won't admit of course.... it's been almost 2 weeks he hasn't called me but june 9th I text him on just saying hi, than he responded by saying "been wanting to call but to afraid to, we've been arguing alot lately how have you been" I responded by letting him know that I think about all the time @ I have no idea wants going on. and to that he hasn't responded. So last night I decided to call him @ ask if we could meet up @ talk about whats going on, I thought that with the text that he sent me things would fall back into place but instead he told me that he didn't want to see me or talk to me that night and when he would be ready he would call me not 4 me to call him. I asked him that whatever he has 2 tell me would it tear me up inside his answer was "I don't think so" I'm 35 years old @ I know he's playing with me but love is so powerful.anyone with advice please
2006-06-11 13:12:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
for one "@" does not mean "and"
two...move on!
2006-06-11 13:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by UniqueIsWhoSheIs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all, why would you want someone that you "know" has cheated on you? Secondly, if you two have been arguing a lot, that's of course a problem. And third, you mentioned that YOU are the one to text him and although he did respond back, nothing really came of it, then you said that he mentioned he had wanted to call but was too afraid to, then tells you not to call him, he doesn't want to see you, that when he is ready he will call you. My question to you is this? When are you going to start caring for yourself more than you do for him? I know all about love and I know it's hard especially if you have been with someone for a period of time, but I think you need to do your crying, and everything else you need to do to help you get over this and do just that. Why should he be the one to dictate when you two can talk, especially when you said HE is the one to cause the mistrust and problems in the first place. That is of course if he really was at fault. Stop chasing him (calls, text etc) because by doing that, you give him total control of every thing, including your emotions. Good luck because I know it's hard.
2006-06-11 20:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie, All that I can tell u is that try again too talk with him and see if the both of u can work things out. I was in the same situation once, I was with this guy for 3 years. The only way I got over him was too find someone else about 6 months after. I cried myself too sleep at times, but now me and the guy r just friends. So all I can tell u is that maybe give him about 2 weeks. By then he should call u. All I did was waited until he called me. And if u don't call him he will call u trust me. Just like now my ex now when I don't call and talk, she calls me. So u will be okay just give it two weeks and see what happens then!
2006-06-11 20:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by miss GQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like love, at least on his part. Sounds like lust, and only when it's convenient for him.
You don't have to "get over" or "forget" anything. In fact, you don't want to - you want to use it as a life lesson so you don't repeat the mistake with someone else of the same personality type.
Stay home for a while, go out with the girls occasionally, and take stock of what you want out of life, and out of a potential mate. You're more likely to find a decent date if you're not looking and not desperate. You need to be complete in yourself before you can add another person to the mix successfully.
2006-06-11 20:16:18 · answer #4 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are more of a women than I... the reason I say that is I wouldn't of text him to begin with and then when he said that he didn't want to see you... sometimes you have to release the love you had for him and fly solo for a while...if it is meant to be and you can move on past him cheating then everything will work out. However I dont think I could ever trust someone like him. good luck to you.
2006-06-11 20:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY PRAY I know what you are going throw and you have to take one day at a time and ask God to help you he is the only one that can give you the answer you are looking for ,but you have to be ready for that answer and know it matte not be something that you what right now ,but know that God know what he is donning and if it is not the best answer now,but it will be in the long run so pray and you will know what to do and he will give you the sheath to dill with it .God bless and good look I will pray for you.Remember that very thing happen for a resin.
2006-06-11 20:26:51 · answer #6 · answered by Light Bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to stop letting him break your heart. It seems he has done a good job of that already! I know its hard when you love someone, but it dosent mean they are the right one for you. There is a man out there that will treat you the way you should be treated...with love and kindness, and faithfullness! I was once in love with a man who wasnt the right one for me, but I left. And ended up finding the love of my life! Life is way to short to waste on a man who isnt even there now....Find soemone who will be there for you for the fun times, the good times, but also through the bad stuff too!
2006-06-11 20:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by BeckyKay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry you got a real ******* for a boyfriend whose just playing you. I bet he has a way of starting the arguments and does just that (even if your the one that gets mad first) whenever he wants to go do something different then be with you. He sounds to much like my ex who really is a walking nightmare. I know how it hurts but you need to remember who you fell in lov ewith didn';t exist probably it was just a phony face they allowed you to see. And kharma will get insincere creeps by the balls someday. and kharma will twist them off.
2006-06-11 20:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by yourdoneandover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to apply good old common sense here. Don't call him and when and if he calls you don't respond. I doubt he'll call you, I think he's already left you but is to much of a coward to admit it. You should look for someone more honest than this man is.
2006-06-11 20:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by annie red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny get over it move on his playing with ur head and ur heart. he dont know what he wants, so with you holding on its just making it worse. plz take my advice, ive been through it, if you know he has cheated on you and wont admit it, hes not good and more and likely he will do it again, you dont deserve that. also. he is just using u for whenever his time is good for him. hes not thinking about how you feel or anything that concerns you. u need a better man. another man will over come that jacka**
2006-06-11 20:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie you have to move on with your life , you cant wait for the past to come back ,, hes just keeping you as a spare and thats nolt fair to you , go out and have fun and meet new people ,, yyou are a great person so dont give up so easy ,,
2006-06-11 20:19:00 · answer #11 · answered by tbolobo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋