happen to have two girls. One is about 10 and the other 16. Anyways, I wont lie the 16 year old is sweet and cute.
My wife also cannot stand the fact that this girl lives right next door to us.
The girl wears very little and is always in bathing suit (they have a pool).
My wife is a little heavy and gives me **** because I'm always in the yard...she thinks I go out there to look at this girl.
We just moved in and Im cleaning up the mess the other people left behind.
So now my wife scorns me and accuses me of things 'like that' if you know what I mean.
She gets angry when I even go in the front porch, Now what.
I cannot help the neighbor has a kid!
I dont stare at this girl either, and my wife is overreacting.
2006-06-11 12:59:25 · 20 answers · asked by NORRIS T. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 24 and my wife is 28.
2006-06-11 13:03:27 · update #1
Plus yesterday the girl waved to me when me and my wife were in the car going to get groceries...I didnt hear the end of it.
2006-06-11 13:06:57 · update #2
sounds like she is just very insecure. spend time with her. tell her you think she is beautiful. the insecurity should go away. she will realize how silly she is being.
2006-06-11 13:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with your wife and talk to her. Tell her that you can't help who your neighbors are or that their daughter wears a bathing suit all the time. You also need to tell your wife how beautiful and attractive she is to you and that you only want her. Let her know that you are working to clean up your yard and not out there to look at this girl. Just be honest and straight forward with her. Tell her that you love her and don't want her accusing you of something that isn't true.
Furthermore, let her know that this girl next door is a child and that you are in no way looking at her as anything more than that. Waving to your neighbors is being friendly and nothing more - it doesn't mean anythihng.
2006-06-11 20:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several possibilities you can do....1. Put up a privacy fence. 2. Get her (your wife) to do the yard work. 3. Do yard work when she is not out there. 4.Go in when the girl comes outside. 5. Hire a yard worker. 6. Move again, 7.Do yard work when the girl is in school. 7. Pick your nose in front of her make her sick so she'll go inside, just a though...lol
2006-06-11 20:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might suggest moving, and tell her it's to keep her from getting hot under the collar all the time. Your marriage should be worth more than the cost of a move.
You also might put up a privacy fence on the back, and a bamboo roll-up shade on that side of the porch.
If you continue to have an issue, it's time for counseling because it can get to be a really serious problem very quickly.
2006-06-11 20:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is possibly insecure. Try doing something special for her that demonstrates your love and reminds her of her utmost importance in your life. Let her know that you love her as she is and that she needn't worry about you becoming attracted to someone else. Give her occasional compliments about her appearance. Notice what she's wearing, her hair, etc and let her know that she is beautiful to you regardless of her size. Do something special :). Perhaps taking her out to dinner, cooking her a special meal, writing a love letter or giving her a massage could help. Once she notices the effort and becomes more secure, she should no longer feel threatened by other women.
Good luck :)
2006-06-11 20:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by treznorfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your wife doesnt trust you, and that is a big part of a marriage. You need to sit down with her and tell her that you have no intentions on looking or doing anything with this young lady. Maybe you should stay clear of her, and whenever you see her go outside, or anywhere, look the other direction or go inside. Show your wife that you have no other intentions what so ever.
2006-06-11 20:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife to get over it...these people lived there first..they have all the right in the world to wear bathing suits in a swiming pool..maybe she should have looked to see what the neighbors looked like before you moved in
2006-06-11 20:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by fadded 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is probably very insecure about her weight. All you can do is assure her that she is the one you love and that the girl is still a baby. will she go outside with you? or on the porch?? Talk to her and be sure she understands that her weight is not a problem for you. I wish you the best.
2006-06-11 20:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is just insecure, and needs to be reassured that you love her and still find her attractive. You cant stop her from getting mad at you, if your not looking at the girl, but if you are then you definately need to stop. But just make sure your wife knows that you love her and think that she is sexy, make her feel sexy and beautiful by buying her some sexy lingerie and treating her to a romantic evening. Good Luck!
2006-06-11 20:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by mo-z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife just needs to get a life. Sorry, but true. Have you ever done anything to make her not trust you? Ya'll need to talk about this. Too much jealously is crazy
2006-06-11 20:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my sounds like trouble is brewing you better tell your woman she is the love of your life and make her feel that way. she might feel threatened. let her know you love her and dont give her a reason to feel otherwise. besides you shouldnt be lookin at a under age kid anyway that is disgusting.
2006-06-11 20:03:32 · answer #11 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋