Its wiser to do which of the following;
1. Follow your heart that says all is right and good and pure about the strange situation you find yourself in, that you needn't worry-the risk is worth it.
or
2. Follow your head that warns you to be cautious time and time again, remain closed, cool, calm and composed. To be sure footed even at the cost of risk so as to have a normal, good, productive life.
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YES! Its about a girl! But also a "life question" so whic
2006-06-11 12:57:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Pay attention to both your head and your heart. Why do you think you have both? They are for balance.
What is life without the confusion of love. I think you are asking is love worth all the confusion? To this I say without hesitation - YES! My only other advise is to take the time to get to know a person before you get all physical - it's hard especially if you are feeling that itch of attraction that keeps you all riled up inside. But it has been my mistake a couple of times to move too fast in a relationship without making myself take the time and it never works. I have friends who say it worked for them but 9 out of 10 times, it does not and ends in disaster. If you are already involved physically as well as emotionally (which is what it seems to be from your question) and are seeing 'strange' things, then as hard as it will be, try talking it out honestly leaving nothing unsaid (maybe writing it out first would be good) with this person. If the answers given on both sides don't satisfy you both that the issues can be resolved (some plan with measureable results if at all possible) then you have to make the hard decision or you will spend unnecesary time and energy in a no win situation. This also gives the other person the knowledge that something is 'wrong/strange' to you and maybe they want to make an 'adjustment' or just end it for everyone's benefit. No one will be happy least of all you if you don't get the issue worked on. Life is terribly short but entirely too long to live in an unhappy state of mind day after day that has no joy with someone you feel love for but there are so many other problems. That's not love, that's hurt.
Hope some of that meant something to you. It helped me just to write it....
2006-06-11 13:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You have to do a little of both. To be wise is no the difference between right and wrong. Just because something feels good doesnt mean its right. Many say wisdom comes with age, and i believe thats true. The older you get the more experience you gain, you learn what right and wrong is. A lot of people think of wise people as the guys that use the big words and have long beards, but thats a steriotype. Since this is about a girl you should think of how she feels, if she doesnt feel right about it whatever your planning might have consequences. Think about if she'll be happy, id say thats the wise thing to do. If you follow your heart you may find out that what you thought you needed wasnt worth it, but if you follow your head you may be to cautious and nothing may ever happen. You need to put those thoughts and feelings together to find the right solution. The answer will come to you in time. But im only 14, what do i know...
2006-06-11 20:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in matters of the heart, the heart should always be the first thing you should follow. Your head will regret it later. And that pretty much applies to everything, I suppose. If ever you feel passionate about something in life, I think that the best thing to do is follow your heart.
2006-06-11 20:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by dazedandconfuse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key word here is the word "wiser". It is always wiser to use your brain and common sense. If you follow your "heart" you could end up with aids, in danger, serious peril, etc. If some one asks you to "follow your heart", does that necessarily mean they are doing the same? Think about it, they are usually using their head to get you not to!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-11 20:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Paula Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, you only have ONE LIFE, its all about risks, no? Do you want to live in regrets? If I only did this, or I wish I did that, just open your eyes and jump.Or roll yourself in bubblewrap and sit in the corner and watch life go by..No one can predict the future and control is an illusion.But for godsake, don't ask a bunch of strangers like us.
2006-06-11 20:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by lilybear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart - because if you listen to reason all the time, when the opportunity passes, your head is going to remind you what a huge regret it was not to take a chance!
2006-06-11 20:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the heart and the head go by your gut reaction it's your own personal alarm system what is it telling you? the head can think to much the heart can't think but that feeling in your stomach when you no when some one is telling the truth or not---take heed of it.
2006-06-11 20:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by charliet1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a combination of the 2.
2006-06-11 20:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by Lotte T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your head with ears to follow your heart.
2006-06-11 20:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by Striker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well - girls tend to follow thier hearts so I am going to say follow your heart, but also if you are having a "gut instinct" to not do what your heart says you may want to ask yourself why you are feelingthat way
2006-06-11 20:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋