my wife thinks it is sweet ..but I haven't told her everything that this girl has said to me...anyway how do I remove myself from this situation so that my life returns to normal.....and this girl doesn't do something crazy....
2006-06-11 12:54:53 · 14 answers · asked by mayigniteunderpressure 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to this girl and tell her the truth - you are happily married and aren't interested in her at all. Once she is told that there is no chance at all ever that anything will happen hopefully she will move on - and if she doesn't just continue to more or less ignore her.
You should be telling your wife everything that she says as your wife has a right to know - honesty is always the best way to go. If things continue to get more heated and this girl can't take no for an answer there is nothing wrong with your wife talking to her and letting her know to back off. Once this girl knows that you are honest with your wife and that her little actions aren't a secret that should be a big eye opener for her.
2006-06-11 13:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to be setting the pace here, and that is to let this 18 year old know that you are married, end of story. There can't be anything, and I don't know where your wife is thinking it is sweet???LOL I think you just need to straight this 18 year old straight, and say you are in a loving, caring marriage and you don't want anything. You don't want to hurt her feelings but that's the deal. That's this girl's problem if she is saying she'll do something to herself if you say no, etc, that is just a form of sick control. Don't buy into it and by all means, don't try to make some friendship from this!!!!
2006-06-11 13:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best way, she is only 18 and has so much more to look forward to. Explain it to her that way. Make it sound like your a bad deal and she should get out while she is ahead.
You also need to tell your wife everything, dont hide anything, you havent done anything wrong, right????
2006-06-11 13:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by KAWAGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat, only the girl is 16!
Move if you have to, your wife has earned her keep and some skanky 18 year old should be butting out of your buisness.
If you love your wife...Tell this girl to **** OFF!
2006-06-11 13:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by NORRIS T. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ignore the girl, tell her that you have no intentions what so ever of having anything with her. Besides you are married and obviously love your wife.
2006-06-11 13:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't her age that is part of this question. You're married and you don't have a line or look to discourage women? Should work on anyone, unless you have been temporarily flattered, then you are sending mixed signals. Are you more worried about your lack of control? Good luck.
2006-06-11 13:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something you're not telling as well? Do you have feelings for her? If you don't, it wouldn't be too hard to give her the cold shoulder and show no interest back. If you let her know that you are happily married and uninterested, it shoouldn't be that hard!
2006-06-11 13:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the truth and tell her you can't stand it. Either tell her to either get over me or get away from me . Don't be mean becuz she could get crazy and maybe kill you or your wife. just let her off gentley. she might ruin your relationship with your wife. I am a siciatrist and i think that athis will help you bucause i have a similair case. DON'T LET HER GET TO YOUR HEAD AND DON'T LET HER HAVE YOU ON THE COUCH FOR THE NIGHT!!!!!
2006-06-11 13:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Brittany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move if u have to, sounds like u love ur wife, she should be proud that u are concerned and not tring to get the girl in bed, she is very lucky, good job dude
2006-06-11 12:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must SPEAK UP and tell her the way it is. You are married. Period......Whatever she says to you, to try to entice you....shut her down. Otherwise, if you show any interest in whatever shes saying, she will keep it up, and your just enabling her to invite nothing but trouble. Remember your a married man. Period.
2006-06-11 13:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by fillie324 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋