This is about the time one of her other sisters lost her life years back and her mother's(deceased) 5th year anniversary of being diagnosed with cancer was last Friday. She is really taking it hard.
2006-06-11 12:46:53 · 18 answers · asked by kfckiller06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I',m sorry to all but I reacently learned that all of her stories were lies.Were finshed.
2006-06-15 08:11:15 · update #1
Just being there and letting her talk, without interruption, is about the best thing you can do. Don't commiserate, don't justify, don't suggest - just listen and make sure meals are eaten and life goes on. She will have to work through this herself, but talkiing it out helps, even when she repeats the same things over and over and over until you could scream. It will pass, but it will take time.
2006-06-11 12:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her. Comfort her and be her support system. Her emotions are probably all over the place so just understand that she will probably have crazy mood swings and be irrational at times - but love her and be there anyway. Don't get offended if she snaps at you or anything like that - she is going through a lot and she might lash out - even at someone she loves.
Just be by her side no matter what and no matter how she acts or what she does. You can also try to help her out - help her keep the house clean, take care of her pets, whatever she needs to make her life a little easier right now. But above all just be with her and be very, very understanding.
2006-06-11 12:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this last September. I know that I would bring up sandwiches, fruit, and drinks for those family that stayed in the hospital. The little things make a big difference as far as support just do what you feel is best and most of all just be there to give emotional support. I know first hand sometimes they just need a shoulder. God Bless and I will Pray For Her.
2006-06-11 12:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she is. Anybody would. That's a big bundle of pain. You are a good friend to care. You can't fix any of it but you can send a card to the family. Just telling them you are praying for them. Or take them a meal like KFC or bake a cake. When someone we love is ill we spend so much time at the hospital we forget to eat. Straighten their house up with your girlfriend. Probably hasn't been vaccumed since she went into the hospital. No time for cleaning. Have your girlfriend spend the night with you just to get away from the stress for a little while. Good luck.
2006-06-11 12:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, that's a lot for anyone to have to endure. The most you can do is be very supportive and let her know that you are there for her through all this. Just be the strong backbone that she definitely needs. Be very sensitive to her. She's going through some very rough emotional feelings right now.
2006-06-11 12:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure her that you are there for her no matter what..Be her shoulder to cry on,a good listener and be her sounding board..in other words if she needs to vent her feelings let her even if it seems negative to you or towards you..Take it in stride as its part of the coping she has to do..Good luck to you both..
2006-06-11 12:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really hard. Just be there for her. The best thing you can do is listen and be a shoulder. That's a lot of grieving. Hopefully they have hospice-they do a great job.
2006-06-11 12:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is pray for her and her family and then all you can do is tell her that you are here for her and that you are not going know where and just listen to her when she take and hold her and tell her lest pray to gather or when you are with her tell her that you are about to pray for her and take her hand and pray,pray that God will give her and her family the sheath that they need to get throw this.Good look and God Bless I will pray for you and her family.
2006-06-11 12:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by Light Bright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just need to be there for her. Hold her tell her everything will be ok. Let her know you are there no matter what. That she can come talk to you any time.
2006-06-11 12:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her as much as you can. Your support must mean a lot to her, nice that she has you to lean on. God Bless.
2006-06-11 12:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋