Is there a such thing as a phobia or fear of cleaning?

Question

I try to keep my house decent looking but it's not always easy since I work and need to do things for and with our children. I get so depressed when I look at laundry that it becomes a daunting task and takes me forever. I feel the same way if I see a messy bedroom. I almost freeze up when I think about how much time it's going to take to get it cleaned right..and I think about it all day long. I love my husband a lot but it doesn't help that he doesn't want to understand what I'm going through. He just tells me "nothing ever gets done around here" on a daily basis, but I feel that all I'm ever doing is cleaning things, cooking, doing things with the kids, or working at my job. There isn't a free hour where I'm not doing something. Does anyone feel this way and is this normal to feel so overwhelmed?

My kids are 2 and 4 or else they would be helping more.

Answer 1

Yes and I have a bad case of it...

Answer 2

I wouldn't say it's a fear of cleaning. It's just that it is indeed, as you so well describe, a daunting task. I live by myself and I really like everything to be tidy and neat. HOWEVER, I not always have the time (or the wish) to do the chores. So there are times when I have a pile of dishes in the sink. Other times, I have a pile of clean laundry waiting to be folded while the hamper is stashed with dirty clothes waiting to be washed. Other times, some of the furniture is dusty. So not everything can be all clean all the time. Don't feel bad about it. One more thing. Tell your hubby to give you a hand with some of the things.

Answer 3

I understand how you feel...there is always an everlasting pile of laundry...if your kids are old enough, teach them to do their own laundry,along with you hubby...that is the only way it seems I can keep my sanity. Don't try to tackle it all at once...do one thing at a time...I usually pick a room I am going to work on and stick it out. Just try not to get frustrated...the key is to try to delegate...my hubby also never helps, so sometime I have to just let it look a mess so he will also get tired of looking at it and lend a hand in cleaning it up. I know the feeling of being overwhelmed by it all. I just figure it took more than a day to mess it up, so it will have to take the same amount of time to clean it all. Pace yourself and good luck.

Answer 4

Welcome to the real world!! Nobody's house is perfect, especially when you have kids. I have 3 of them (not including my bf) and I constantly pick up after them. It is never ending. Your husband sounds like my bf. He just doesn't understand. He says the same thing. I bet if he had to stay home with the kids, he wouldn't get too much done either. I totally understand where you are coming from. He complains because nothing is done, but doesn't want to help. He think everything should be your job and that "other" people dont live this way. Hang in there. Do the best that you can...and if he doesn't like it, then maybe he needs to lend a hand!!

Answer 5

Yes, it is very normal. I get like that at times. I just do one thing at a time and not worry about eveything being spotless. I do most of the cleaning and it can get to you. Some days I feel like running away. But if I take it easy things do get done. Should make your husband help a little. Have a good day and relax.

Answer 6

don't worry too much about it, i think it's normal to feel that way sometimes. of course you feel it more often then others it seems. i think you're just stressing out too much, take a day off once and a while. maybe you should talk to your husband again, it doesn't seem like he knows the seriousness to your situation. good luck.

Answer 7

This is very normal, I get that way, it's just overwhelming and you feel like it is a never ending task.

Answer 8

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