Maybe I'm a hermit, but I really don't like it when people just show up to visit without calling me first to see if I'm busy. I am busy a lot, so maybe I'd never visit, but I like it that way! I have found this getting very irritating, but don't know whether I should just ignore it, or find a way to deal with it. I like to be prepared when people come over (clean up the house, baby proof for little children, close doors that I don't want people to go into, etc.). When people just show up, I am not relaxed, I worry about my stuff getting wrecked by kids, and I spend my time stressing about what I was supposed to be working on. So... opinions, anyone? I have no problem being social, but I prefer to do it on my own terms (and usually somewhere other than my house). HELP! I don't want to be rude, either.
2006-06-11 12:22:39 · 6 answers · asked by wibbie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That is a very good question. I always say to unexpected visitors that "I am in the middle of something important and I can't have company right now. And I wish you had called so that you would not have had to waste a trip. Sorry."
2006-06-11 12:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in total agreement with you. I have had people show up when I am taking a bath, or not dressed and just recently when
I was having a dinner party. I had 8 dinner guest and that is a lot
of work & planning. I wanted to enjoy it. Here comes my brother & his funky wife. They didn't have the good sense to just leave.
They sat on the sofa and watched us at dinner. I know how miserable {they were} because they always eat everything I have when they show up unanounced. I can't figure out what to do I have told them repeatedly to call first.
2006-06-11 12:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people don't call me first, I refuse to answer my door. I have also answered the door and told people I was busy, and couldn't visit at the present time. Some have been offended, but that's their problem, not mine.
2006-06-11 12:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you.I hate people who don't call first and i am too nice to just tell them to go away.Try not answering the door or when they come you put your jacket on and say to them something like:"oh sorry i didn't knew that you are coming,sorry but i have to go ...there..."
And just go.walk around for 10 min and go back. They will call you next time,trust me.
2006-06-11 12:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by zroebg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
answer the door and ask why they didnt call first if it bothers you that bad. or just dont answer the door. it kinda sounds like you have an anxiety call a doctor
2006-06-11 12:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Riss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont answer your door and maybe theyll go away.
2006-06-11 12:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by pkuchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋