Do you think he is just over reacting??

Question

I'm 8 in a half mths pregnant, and you probably already know that hr hits me. And I think my boyfriend is jealous because when I talk to my baby she gets active, and move around a lot. And when my boyfriend talk to her she dont move and I think he gets mad because she dont do nothing. Do you think its that serious??

Answer 1

let him know that its easier for the baby to hear ur voice, plus babies are more receptive to females voices because of their higher pitch... tell him to talk a little louder and more like a woman, and maybe he will get a response from the baby... and tell him not to worry, the baby will love him just as much as it loves u... make sure u ask him for help taking care of the baby, cuz it would be hard without him! :)

Answer 2

Hi. Unfortunately your story is one that I have heard too much of. Many women, like yourself, continue to justify why a man hits them. I don't know how things were for you growing up, maybe you think this is how a man is normally with a woman. It's not, you asking this question shows that somewhere you know this isn't right. A woman is at the greatest risk to be abused when she is pregnant. I don't care if it's open handed and "provoked" by something you said, you don't deserve to be hit....EVER. Things will not get better, most of the time they don't get better even if the guy goes for counseling. Don't use "happy times" as a reason to stay with him, eventually they will get to be less and less. Think about your daughter, do you want her thinking a man hitting a woman is normal and she can expect that in her romantic relationships?
The most dangerous time for an abused woman is when she is leaving. Please seek help from the information listed below....makes plans and find resources in your community to help you. This may be something that you aren't ready to do yet, but I hope someday you will be ready to stand up for yourself and get out. You and your baby deserve wonderful lives....don't let him take that right away. Good luck and God bless you both.

Answer 3

Well, Hope doesn't seem to have a clue what's going on... Try, at least, not listening to him.

Now, the real question: Are you hitting him? Do you show him an abusive attitude, pushing his buttons until he hits you? Who is really in control of the situation? If it's really not you pushing him over the edge on purpose, then please read the rest of my answer.

My point: if he's hurting you, how bad do you think he can hurt that baby?

I think the next time he hurts you, you should have two cans of pepper spray ready. Use one to subdue him, use the other just for kicks and giggles while you're waiting for the police to get there. Abusive people can be good for a laugh once in a while. You just have to give them a chance...

Answer 4

Don't let any man hit you, let alone the one who should be on his knees thanking you for carrying his child!!!!!!

Call the police, what do you think he will do to the baby once it is in the world?! Not to mention the psychological effect it will have on your child watching her father beat her mother. You are being a damned fool and your child will end up in the hands of child services if someone reports the physical and mental abuse that goes on in your home. Don't think no one is going to notice either, it's always apparent.

Get help, you don't need him, and no father at all for your baby is WAY better than a "father" like that!!!

As for the baby moving, she can hear your voice much better, and mom's voice is always more soothing than dads because she hears every word you say - including "OUCH PLEASE STOP IT HURTS!"

Don't be selfish, think of your little one's well being!!!!

Answer 5

I think you said that your baby is kicking you. Not your boyfriend. That's not a big problem because the baby is inside you and she knows is part of you. Tell him don't to be jealous because he will have the baby in his hands soon and she will hear him better. Congratulations!!!

Answer 6

First of all, Congratulations for the new arrival !!!

I feel your boy is little over reacting.Just understand the simple fact that the baby inside can either listen to any of you.The movements inside is involuntary.

So no need for anyone to get over worked on the fact.
Instead concentrate on your health as your D-day is nearing.
All the best !

Answer 7

wow...im 8 months pregnant too! congrats to us both! if i were you i would just tell him that at this point in your pregnancy the baby hears you al the time and may react differently to your voice than to his...also the baby moves when they want to they are stretching out cuz its so cramped in there..reassure him it has nothing to do with him at all and not to be upset...soon the baby will be out and he will be able to enjoy her as much as you will. my first child would go nuts in my belly for me then everytime my husband would try to feel she would stop...hope all goes well for you both!!! oh and if he hit you ...then you need to GET OUTTA THERE NOW!!!! you need to think of that babys life too

Answer 8

No it is not that serious. First of all she can hear you better. Plus she is inside you and "knows" she is a part of you. Of course she is going to respond differently to you.
He just needs to be patient she will be here soon and then he can love her all he wants.
He is just trying to feel the connection that you feel and it is frustrating because he can not right now.

Answer 9

HOW DID SO MANY PEOPLE MISS THAT SHE IS BEING HIT???? Please leave, there is NOTHING normal about your BF. He is dangerous and he will continue to hit you after the baby is born and If he's jealous now ....WAIT! Please Please Please get help. Go to the police, or the hospital, they will get you in touch with a battered woman's organization. People like him never change, and some girls wait till it's too late. If you won't do it for yourself please do it for your unborn baby, you need to be around to protect her.

Answer 10

someone who hits you at any time, much less when you are pregnant, is a terrible person. you need to leave. call this number for help...1-800-799-SAFE its the national domestic violence hotline. you do not deserve to be hit. please leave for your safety and your baby's. it will only get worse.