We went to a friends house this weekend and it became a total disaster it was my friend's fault and my boyfriend told me just now that he doesn't like my friends and he will not hang out with them anymore and I am on the rope on which one to chose. Please help me!!!!
2006-06-11 11:31:45 · 14 answers · asked by summerlovin6584 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have about 3 sensible responses so far.
Look.....you have friends........and you have a boyfriend. You love both I'm assuming. Your boyfriend doesn't have to adore these particular friends, and those friends don't have to adore him.
the way I read this...you're putting yourself in the middle. I didn't read anywhere where either he or they have forced you to choose between them.
Sooooooo, maybe your boyfriend has a valid reason why he dislikes them. You, yourself said this encounter was your friends' fault.....so why alienate your boyfriend over it? Maybe your friends are idiots.
Maybe your boyfriend is over-reacting.
Maybe your friends are hard to take.....maybe your boyfriend is a tight-a$$.
Don't try and make sweeping decisions about them without taking the time to examine the situation and figure out what's going on. It sounds like you are trying to lay blame or base your reaction on an incident that you really don't understand or have thought out very carefully. You're running to a bunch of strangers, for advice, that don't know you, your boyfriend or your friends, seeking advice, and no one here knows any of you.
So......don't be hasty. Think, and look at things from different points of view, and use your own judgement.
2006-06-11 12:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if i was you i would chose who ever you knowen longer, cause if u just started to be boyfriend/girlfriend and have been friends with the other people longer then choose then ot him, or its the other way around if you knowen him longer choose him. Hope i could help
2006-06-11 18:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by lil_cute_bitch_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who makes you the happiest? Who do you think will be around the longest? Just know regardless of what people say, friends aren't always forever.
2006-06-11 18:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should accept them just as much as he accepts you. If he doesn't like the fact that you are friends with them, then you don't deserve him. He should be able to come to conclusion where as you can be friends with them, and be in a relationship with him.
2006-06-11 18:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by lvbs793 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt have 2 choose. if ur boyfriend doesnt want 2 hang with them thats his choice however he should except that u still want 2 hang with him so u should hang with ur friends whenever u want 2. if he cant except that let him go.
2006-06-11 18:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't bother to read the problem, friends ALWAYS come first. Friends are forever, guys are whenever!
2006-06-11 18:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirl91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on an individual! coz u know wat u want in a relationship and that really matters here.lets say u c ur boyfriend as ur future hubby,i don't think u'll want 2 chose ur friends over him no matter wat.so u need 2 think twice b4 u take any decision.
2006-06-11 18:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by sexygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with friends come first!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That depends on your true feeling for each!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Are you & your boyfriend serious?????????????
Is he right about what happened with your freinds????????
If this guy is the one you think your going to spend the rest of your life with, & your friends were real jurks, I think you should consider if they are true friends????????????
If they were, they should have had some conseradition of your feelings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't let them make up your mind!!!!!!
People can be so mean!!!!!!!!!!!
Think of what you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-06-11 18:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Thor Hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends comes first,at least i think so.your so called boyfriend might be in to destroy yo' friendship,or he might like one for his self!!
2006-06-11 18:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by MR. REMY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys will come and go, but your best friends are forever.
2006-06-11 18:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by Cricket 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋