My daughter will be 10 in july. Is she old enough to call and wish mw happy birthday. I understand that when you are that young you play and you dont think of things like that. My feelings are hurt because she has not called. but I think it is my ex wifes dutie to say "you eed to call your dadand wish him happy birthday. to set an example of importance to acknowlege loved ones birthdays. Am I wrong. I believe my ex is doing it just to hurt me. She is the one who committed adultery.
2006-06-11 11:19:37 · 14 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
of course I have been in touch she was a daddy's girl. We had a wonderful relationship until the divorce.
2006-06-11 11:30:22 · update #1
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
Don't take it to heart. She's a child and didn't mean nothing by it. My son totally ignored Mother's Day this year.....
It hurts, sure, but divorces usually do. It gets easier, trust me.
Maybe next year you can invite her out to dinner on your birthday. Ask her Mother to let you take her out and then have a little celebration, just the two of you. And do it on her birthday too, if you can, just so she realizes that birthdays are important to you and that hers means a lot to you as well. You can only lead by example.
2006-06-11 12:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Huh? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much about your girl not calling. Your ex is probably trying to brainwash your daughter. Your situation sounds similar to mine. My oldest girl is 18 and decided a few months ago that she couldn't stand to live with her mom anymore. Your little girl needs you to love her more than anything. All you can do is make sure you give her the support she needs from you everyday. She will give you lots of love.
Your ex may be trying to hurt you but so what? Don't let the b**ch get under your skin. Sounds like she may be there right now. Make your dealings with her as buisness-like as possible and show her no emotion. All she will do is try to hurt you more. You can take that power away from her.
2006-06-11 18:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call her instead --- she after all is a child --- you can teach her this example. --- just say - hello and that you were thinking about her and wished she could be with you on your birthday. Ask her to write it down and maybe next year you and she can spend it together... also mention that you have made a special note on the calender to call on her birthday next month. Let her know you are looking forward to her special day too!
2006-06-11 18:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this scenario is why divorces are so devastating to families and are to be avoided. That said I recommend that you fight for your daughter's attention (figuratively speaking) in that you need to be proactive and get involved. She is young so don't expect her to do what is right and your ex-wife is not going to do so because she is not obeying the rules of courtesy because she is thinking about herself. She could care less about you - women lose their minds after divorce! So you need to be respectful, considerate and proactive to maintain a relationship with your daughter!
2006-06-11 19:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont expect her to give a crap about you and your feelings. Yes the right thing to do would be for her to remind your daughter about your birthday. You cant change who your ex is, dont let your feelings get caught up in her actions, or lack there of...
2006-06-11 18:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy Birthday!
All i can say is pray.
It's helped me through the separation with my wife.
She has been gone almost 8 weeks now and I pray alot for god to send her home to me.We remain friends and she visits frequently but doesn't want to stay with me at this time.Call your child today and I think just hearing her voice will make you feel better.
2006-06-11 18:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by crussell33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and tell her that you are going to have a special birthday party with her to celebrate your birthday. Take her out on a date, order a cake, etc. Celebrate you ............and your birthday the next time you are with her. She has no control over the call and you shouldn't worry about it.
2006-06-11 23:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I'm sure it's just your ex wife, either not letting her, or not wanting her too. My husband's son is never allowed to call him, unless he calls his son...that way it's on our dime, and not theirs. even on birthday's and holidays...doesn't matter. Just her way of being a rip, don't take it out on y our daughter, but yea, your right, it would be the *right* thing to do...just don't let your daughter grow up to be like her mother.
2006-06-12 19:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even if your wife is doing this....You call your child just to say hi and talk to her. Live for you and your child because the people you may depend to be there for you may not be. Don't be suprised. AND good luck with that.
2006-06-11 18:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sunie* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, I to feel that it is the responsibiltiy of the other to make sure that your daughter called. I'm sorry... Happy Birthday
2006-06-11 18:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by Shan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋