My boyfriend lately has been having trouble getting off when we have sex.. he has no problem when masturbating. He says it's not me, but I can't help feeling like it's something to do with me...
2006-06-11 11:02:47 · 13 answers · asked by Niki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Niki,
If he's not having this problem when masturbating then have you asked him what kind of thoughts he has when he does masturbate? My guess is he's fantasizing when he helps himself which may indicate a lack of stimulation when you're having sex together. If this is the case then you could try spicing things up together, experiment with new ideas and fantasies to see if this helps him to achieve orgasms with you more often. I doubt seriously if this is due to a medical problem.
2006-06-11 11:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 16⤊ 0⤋
There is a major problem here. Orgasms are a physical reaction to a psychological euphoria. As an example: if I drink too much, I cannot have one either because the senses are dulled by the alcohol. The erotic senses are kept at a level that allows me to do everything minus achieving an orgasm. A sexual relationship is a very personal and important matter for a healthy bond between any two people. What you need to do is think back to when you first started the relationship and find what is different now-- what is distracting him to "dull" his erotic senses. If you cannot find the reason--and I feel it is on him psychologically -- then you will have this issue in your relationship until one or both of you gives up out of frustration.
2006-06-11 18:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by azguitar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unlikely to be something to do with you, especially if previously you had no problems. Lots of things can affect men in this way - maybe he has other things worrying him? If you are both worried about this problem, that in itself can make it worse, as he will feel under pressure to orgasm with you. So be relaxed about it, reassure him that you are not bothered as it is probably just a temporary thing, and chances are, things will soon get back to normal.
Alternatively, maybe the physical relationship is getting a bit stale, perhaps you need to talk about what you can both do for each other to 'liven up' things a bit, to make it a bit more exciting for both of you.
Hope this helps.
2006-06-11 18:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has trouble getting off during sex then something is troubling him.It doesn't have to be u.Maybe he is more relaxed when he masturbates. Help him to relax and try something different.U never know,it might help. Good luck..............
2006-06-12 11:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by hoop_102 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic. Perhaps he just needs stronger stimulation to take him there. Just make sure you both have enough foreplay and he's really desperate for an orgasm when he enters you. Hope that helps.
2006-06-11 18:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me girl its not you, evidently he is cheating on you. Haven't you ever heard the saying that if he doesn't *** quickly the first time during intercourse then he must be sleeping with someone else.Hun just ask him if he is ok. BYE.
2006-06-11 18:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stop masturbating.
2006-06-11 18:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by glitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie-if he can't climax when you two have sex it definately is not you-he might be too stressed,too tired,it could be any number of things-but definately not your fault!
2006-06-11 18:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by SidTheKid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be masturbating too often, that can cause problems too. guys need recharge time, some longer than others.
2006-06-12 11:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on? If it continues, I'd suggest seeing a doctor.
2006-06-11 18:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by JJJJJJJJim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋