do you let ur significant other or spouse tell you what to do?

Answer 1

i do what i want to do and he knows that..... he can ASK me, and if it's reasonable i will do it but i don't let ANYONE "tell" me what to do.

Answer 2

Marriage or any relationship is a compromise. Things should be talked about and discussed. If your spouse or significant other just tells you what to do without listening to you or your opinions, they don't really care about you, they're just trying to control you.
Someone who likes to give orders should join the military.

Answer 3

Heck no, I'm not a kid and my significant other or spouse is not my parent. As adults there is no need to tell the other what to do unless you are trying to control them.

Answer 4

I use to but I had to re-evaluate how I feel about it and myself. I am a grown A** woman that pay my own way in the world. I work, I pay taxes, I handle my own bills and so what if I didn't no one should tell me what to do. Offering advise is different and I'll take it in more if you approached me in that manner, but to tell me what to do anymore I will not stand for it and you shouldn't either. A real man doesn't have to boss his wife or girl around to feel like a man and this is all they are getting out of it is to try to feel like a REAL man.

Answer 5

No, my husband doesn't tell me what to do. We discuss big things and decide on our best options together. Marriage is all about team work. It's an equal partnership and both members hold the keys and make the team successful.

Your partner has to value your input, just as much as you value his. Your parter has to value your work, just as much as you value his. Both should do housework, chores, cooking, and caretaking of children. Not just one.

It's important to have conversations about values and expectations before going into marriage. This way both parties know what they're getting into. Then if you know he's a sexist pig and you wanted to marry him anyway...ITS YOUR FAULT, you chose to marry him.

Answer 6

No, because they are not my parent and if I wanted one I would still be living at home. You never tell each other what to do in a relationship, you ask out of respect for each other. But, then again some act so brainless they want to be told what to do for not being able to make a decision for themselves.

Answer 7

NO! My 1st marriage of 18 yrs. He had total control over me w/o me realizing it. 2 yrs. after divorce is when I actually realized that I had my own life, and did not need to ask permission to do any/everything that I wanted to do. Always talk about things, if he/she does not want you to do something, there is usually a reason for it, always work through the situation... NEVER let it sit and fester.

Answer 8

Of course not! We talk things over, discuss and debate but we would never tell each other what to do. We are an equal Partnership and as we love & admire each other would listen to advice but if my husband decided to dictate to me, or me to him, we would suddenly have an unhappy marriage, so we won't!

Answer 9

Hell no! And if he tried he knows he woldn't like the consequences! I had an ex that did that to me and my dad did that to me for far too long (even after I was an adult), so I refuse to have ANYONE tell me what to do, unless it is my boss at a job. My fiance asks me to do things, nicely, and I do them if I have time or remember.

Answer 10

Depends. If it makes sense and sounds better than what I was planning to do, sure. If it's just a control issue (I like your hair like this, wear this color, don't go out and do this because you should just stay home cuz that's what women are supposed to do, then HELL TO THE NO).

Answer 11

Absolutely not!!! A relationship is about respect. If you're with someone they can ask you nicely to do something for them, but telling me what to do...hell no!!!! I'm the kind of person that don't like to answer to people. If I'm told not to do something, well, I'll do it just because you told me not to.