My wife, before we got married, had sex with 32 guys, and god knows how many girls. in my heart, im hurting because i've only slept with 9 people. i feel like she's a slut, what should i do?
2006-06-11 10:28:08 · 24 answers · asked by chassie67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I mean, i love her to the day i die, i just dont know what to do. it hurts me every time i think of it. she keeps on bringing up that she has been with the drummer of a rock band, and in her voice it seems like she is rubbing it in my face, and it hurts. what should i do? confront her about it? drink more? what? im confused. my heart is aching, and we've only been married for only 1 week.
2006-06-11 13:35:36 · update #1
why do you need to forgive her for things she did BEFORE you were married? Perhaps this is why we should all save ourselves till we are married....
nonetheless, you married her despite her history, dont be so cruel as to call her names or think bad of her because of this.If you love her get over it and realise she married you. Her past life experience has made her what she is today.....the woman you fell in love with!
all the best!
2006-06-11 10:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by BRICK 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did she sleep with anyone while you were married? If not, who cares? What she did before she was married is her life and what you did was yours. As long as she doesnt add another one onto the list, you are fine.
Think about it this way. She got her wild years over with. Because she slept with so many guys, do you think she is ever going to go "Well, I really want to make sure that my husband is the best in bed?" Dont htink so. Its no problem
2006-06-11 17:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Man Coon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she's into the numbers game. And she actually told you this????????? If I were a guy, I'd probably not have married her......32 guys -- I don't think I knew 32 guys before I got married,, much less have slept with them. In her place I would have "shut the hell up". The past was the past. If it's a deal breaker, you need to tell her, and get out. If it is not, you need to close the door on it, and get on with your life....
2006-06-11 17:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS A WHORE!
Im 25 and slept with 2 men ever!
I was engaged to the first one.
32 guys is skanky, she obviously cannot keep her legs closed and she would probly **** around on you when given the chance to.
32 is not a small number, shes a dirty slut, find a decent self respecting women, NOT A WHORE!
Do you want this whore as the mother of any children you may have...HELL NO!
2006-06-11 17:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by cheesytwist 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew about this before you got married you should have dealt with it before.
Fact is, whether it's one or 10 or 100 other men, it's no different than you with your 1 or 10. Sin is sin. Wrong is wrong. You are just as guilty. As long as she's faithful to you, you can't ask anything more. That's all that matters now. You'd be best off to truly forgive her and respect her or your marriage is going to suffer, bigtime.
2006-06-11 17:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest it is her past, but i can understand that i would'nt want a guy who has slept with that many men it is quite a put off, but try to not let it get to you she's all yours now no one elses, and it's not a big deal that you've only slept with 9 people, i say the less the better cause i d rather not be with someone whose been around. Have a chat with her about it she may be OTT about it, it's good to get it off your chest.
2006-06-11 17:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it was before you got married, she had every right, and you have to deal with it. You should have known before you married her. If she just told you now, then you can be a little angry, but you can't do anything. If you really love your wife and want to be with her, then move on. If she's not cheating on you and hasn't cheated on you before, then there shouldn't be a problem and she's not a sl**. Talk to her about it in order to gain closure. If that doesn't work, I suggest couple therapy.
2006-06-11 17:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by King Yellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok that depends on how old your wife is now and how far apart they were from each other when she slept with them but i wouldn't be ashamed or upset because number one it was before you and she was just a little more sexually active than you were, it doesn't mean that she is a****, it just means as i said previously that she was more sexually active than u. As for possibly sleeping with woman most girls experiment in that department. if you and youur wife are as in love as when you first married then just go on loving her leave thepast in the past look tothe future and the happiness that you could both still share.
2006-06-11 17:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by mysical_one_hellfire_666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is strange. People growing up make these decisions. Some people may say it's okay and others may no. Forgiving is an important issue in a relationship, but you must think about the key thing ....Did she do it to hurt you? (Did she know you?)
2006-06-11 17:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sunie* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am surprised you would feel that way --- since you both were sexually active with different people.... regardless of the number --- neither of you can presume to be better than the other.
What should you do about your feelings - just get on with your life and you and the wife can get into couseling so you two can build a stronger bond with each other....
2006-06-11 18:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋