my husband was abusive all forms and a hardcore druggie we are now seperated and divorce is in the very near future......he is where he belongs in a brick cell....he murdered our dog....when will i let me go on emotionly?
2006-06-11 10:16:50 · 11 answers · asked by HALEE' 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You deserve to be free now!!! its only you stopping yourself from becoming the person you should be
2006-06-11 10:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by a127babes 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I would seek counseling, for yourself and any children that you have had.If he is where he belongs thats good for you, and that he cant get to you is even better, I would file for divorce as soon as you could while he is still locked up.... that way he can hurt you or anyone else. you need to find some friends to talk to about this to and support you though this.. Yes its going to be hard but you will pull though it, hold your head up high and move on, and dont look back at the past, because if you do it will always be there. Just look toward the future.
2006-06-11 18:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by krista a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready. It is very hard to let go, but in time with the help of good friends and a lot of crying you will go on. I've been in a similar relationship and It took me about 3 years to get over it but I also didnt have any good friends, now I am married to an awesome guy and he knows all about that other relationship (if u can call it that) he has also helped me a lot. I hope you have some good friends, if not you can talk to me sometimes its better to talk to people who can understand what U have gone through. Best Wishes....
2006-06-11 17:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by rnjwells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You allow yourself to be free, when the pain is too much to handle. Some people you just can't save but you can save yourself. For some women...it ends up being too late. The only way they are freed is through death, but you have choice and I wish you the best of luck in freeing yourself because when you really think about it.....That's what matters most.
2006-06-11 17:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sunie* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody expects you to live like that.. I don't believe God does.
There's probably people that disagree with that, but thats o.k.
You see I going through the same kind of thing and have been for a long time, with my wife. The past 6-7 years I've lost money, friends, re-located like three times for her. Tried going through the divorce procedure, then the lawyers started their tricks with me, you know dragging things on so they could get more money and stuff. So I bailed out of that tried making things right again , and so on and son on and so on........Its totally your choice to stay and suffer or to leave.... I believe in free will........
2006-06-11 17:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by the ant ! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation only I left my ex when I caught him beating our 8 month old daughter. You may not be free emotionally for a long time. It depends on your situation. I'm free from my ex emotionally but that doesn't stop me from getting lonely as we've been apart for 2 years. Lonelieness however is not the same as wanting them back, so try not to fall into that trap. If you need any advice feel free to contact me. phebes_mom@yahoo.com
2006-06-11 18:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would say yes. and the fact is you will move on only when you ( CHOSE ) to.
Read the Book His Needs, Her Needs, By Willard harley Jr.
AND Smart Love by Dr. Phil Mcgraw
this guppie you married needs time to mature. and frankly you do not have time to play wetnurse until he does. find a real man who appreciates all the beauty within and find your won happiness. cause he won;t find it for you.
God Bless you in what ever decision you make.
2006-06-11 17:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take your time and breathe. You need to find counseling and help to begin to even start to heal from the pain and suffering this has caused you.... This will take time and probably a few years.
2006-06-11 21:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take you awhile to process what you has happened - work through it and keep believing in yourself.
2006-06-11 17:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse, lies, drugs, killing an animal. Oh hell, I would of left his *** a long time ago and freed myself.
2006-06-11 17:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋