Online relationships?

Question

How many people believe that online relationships really CAN last and how far do you think they CAN go??

I'm just asking to see what other people think of the situation. Truth is, I've been in a relationship for the last 4 years, with a man I met "online". We are getting married in 6 days. For all but 8 months, we've lived 2000+ miles apart (him in Canada, and me in Ohio) and he still can't tell people how we met (out of fear of criticism). Him and I talk about it all the time, and how amazing it is that we've made it this far, and stayed so strong as a couple, but I realize that "online dating" is something that people don't exactly look highly upon. Thanks for your responses.

Answer 1

I don't think so.



--- LeeeN

Answer 2

Congratulations. I too met my boyfriend online. I met him through yahoo personals in 2001. I chose to only look for guys who were near me though so we were able to meet fairly soon after that. I never would have met him if it hadn't been for the internet.

As far as how far it can last, I personally don't think I could have a strictly long distance or online relationship without meeting them in person. Perhaps if there was a point where you knew you would be together eventually it would work, like your relationship. I don't see how someone can have a relationship online without ever hoping to meet the other person, but I suppose that would depend on how those people felt about it.

I knew someone who married a man that she only saw about every 6 months during the time they were dating. She told me she felt their relationship progressed faster because of that fact. She felt that because they were so far apart they had to TALK. Where if you lived near the person you could just watch movies together and not really TALK much at all.

I can relate to your fiance's embarrassment about meeting online. My boyfriend refuses to tell his own mother how we met and he will not allow me to tell her. When people ask me I just say very enthusiastically "We met on the INTERNET! I never would have met him otherwise. I know people think its weird but I think its wonderful." It sometimes takes people by surprise but I've never had someone comment negatively and I certainly don't have to hide it or beat around the bush.

Congratulations again on your wedding. I wish you two the best of luck and happiness!!!

Answer 3

Well I think they could only go as far as talking. I mean, there is nothing phyiscal about it at all. Unless you are touching yourself. I think you could have feelings for someone online, but I myself couldn't "date" someone. I liked a guy on the internet once, and after about a year, I went to go visit him. That was awesome, but we both knew that we needed to have that physical touch more than once a year. I guess if you don't like being physical, you could take an online relationship far...it really depends on the person. Plus, you need to have ALOT of trust. I know while I was talking to that person online, I was doing my thing where I was living. I just think it really depends on the people having the relationship. Eventually the ones dating online will HAVE to meet. Then once you meet, it may be different. I think alot of the people that date online are very naive. Buuut that's just me.

Answer 4

They are basically no different from other relationships... you meet, you get to know each other, you fall in love or not... the only difference is that you can get to know each other BEFORE you meet...and one of the dangers is that you can make up a personality that's not you at all. But that can happen with conventional relationships as well.

My very best wishes for your upcoming marriage, have a long and happy life together and may all your hopes and dreams come true!

Answer 5

It depends on the willingness of both people for the relationship to continue...In my case I've been dating this beautiful girl from webdatedotcom and we only see each other once a week... We made a vow to continue our communication despite of the boundaries and here we are about to get married..

Answer 6

I personally just got out of a an online relationship...the online and over the phone part lasted for 2 years...long distance...then he moved here to be with me about a year ago...and we recently decided to go our separate ways...relationships are what you make them...it doesn't matter if you meet someone online or at a club...it can last if you want it to last...and they can go as far as you want them to go..it all depends on what you are looking for...

Answer 7

Congratulations! My brother met my sister-in-law online a few years ago. But, some need to beware because they are some perverts out there. My brother told us and it didn't bother us because at first we thought he was kidding, then we realized he wasn't.
Good luck on your new life together!

Answer 8

I suppose eternally, if you are lucky enough, but it's unlikely as many to the things about a successfull relationship involve being around the actual person & watching their moment by moment reactions & habits to see if you jibe with them.

Answer 9

I think they will go as far as you will let them or want them to go.I have tried to find someone to even just be friends with on the internet, but all I seem to get are perves that just want to see my boobs. be care full, Teresa

Answer 10

Free advice is usually worth the price.....but in this case i think you should consider what i have to say:

Walk away now, while you still can. Before you are very badly hurt.