So yeah, my bf just broke up with me about a week ago and i just don't know what to do... i realize we were both at fault, we had problems... But I still love him and its just hard to let go. Why is it so hard to let go? I'm confused. Heartsick and well I'm sure a lot of people out there know the whole story since its nothing new... heh... But anywho i just need advice on getting over my ex.
Its funny, he says maybe later we'll bump into each other, and it might be different... I'm confused as to why he would say that. i guess i'm just confused period
2006-06-11 09:47:23 · 12 answers · asked by demif_o_x 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Time will heal your wounded heart. I know it doesn't seem like it could ever be possible, but it is...I promise.
I know exactly what you are feeling, and one day you will wonder why it was so hard to get over him.
2006-06-11 10:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by huhwhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havn't been in a relationship at all, so i can only offer so much help. one thing i suggest is listening to some break up music or writing your own break up songs/poems/rants. i have a little list:
1. Tourniqet - Marilyn Manson
2. Love is Only a Feeling - The Darkness
3. Comunication Breakdown - Led Zeplin
4. Good-Bye to Romance - Ozzy Osbourne (also good for a broken friendship)
5. No More Tears - "
that's all i can think of right now. if anyothers come up i'll post them. also, when you been in love with someone, especially if it was really something (IE: first love), then there's going to be some love for that person still around. this i can say from experience(but i'm going to get into that since this is about you, not me, and i just don't want to talk about it).
Looked around in my cd collection, and found somemore break-up songs.
1. Only Love Can Break Your Heart - Neil Young
2. Before The Dawn - Judas Priest
3. Don't Need A Man - GWAR (more of a getting-over-it song, but still)
4. Spade - Marilyn Manson (maybe refered to as untitled since he listed it with a picture of a spade on the album it came from)
5. Love's A Loaded Gun - Alice Cooper
6. Solitude - Black Sabbath
7. Boys Don't Cry - The Cure (I'm pretty sure that these guys have some more break-up songs, but I could be wrong)
8. 2 Out of 3 Aint Bad - Meatloaf
I hope you heal well, and find Mr. Right (or Mr. Right-Now if that's what ya want). Either way, good luck. :)
2006-06-11 17:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same think AGAIN. I know the heartsick feeling. I also know I'll live, though I don't like this mourning process. Cry when you need to. It helps, rather than just trying to get your mind off things. I saw a short cartoon called Tear Soup. You should find it and watch. It helps us understand the grieving process in our losses. I'm with you in this one. I still fantasize he will call and everything will be better. Its just something we do but we'll come out stronger and have learned something on the other side of this. I have faith in that.
2006-06-11 18:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Karri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, think better of yourself. He told you he would bump into you later. Now does that sound like he wants to be with you, or even a hint of love there! I think not. You are better off leaving him to the curb. He just don't know how to treat a good thing. And I would not set around mourning something that isn't worth your time of day. Baby, just keep living. Pick your head up, go buy something nice for yourself and start a new goal plan. Don't get taken in so easily. Your are worth 100 times more then he will ever get from anyone else. Been there done that type of thing. Build yourself up and go fishing! When he sees you happy with something else in your life, just remember who dumped who! My precious Queen! Don't stick with a loser and fool! I say write his name on a piece of paper, look at it for one minute and tear it up, throw it away and go about your business. That's just one in a million more like him. Just watch your back!
2006-06-11 17:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by dollarbill2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cry for many days , look at old pictures, lea sen to a song that reminds you of him, cry some more , call your friends and talk about him over , over again until they get sick. Cry some more. Go out with friends, keep busy, Have one night stand .there I hope that works and drop me e-mail let me know what happen and One more thing burns his pictures and send them to him and along with the sh%t he gave during the relationship. Then in a couple months send picture of you and your new awesome boyfriend and shove it in his face.
2006-06-12 01:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by hopewaypinkywinkyrabbitgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok. I know how you feel. Just think of the good times, and then the bad and say it wasn't worth it. It's really hard to get over it and there is really no real way to just get over it.....You have to just remember the good times and move on. There are more fish in the sea.
2006-06-11 17:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat it as a learning experience. when you get comfortable being with someone it's weird not to have him around. give yourself some alone time...it's not the end no need to mourn ..in times if u ever bump into each other you will have a very different perspective.
2006-06-11 21:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with friends and show him you can still have a good time. Your friends will help you the most to get over him.
2006-06-12 15:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He said that to soften up the blow a little bit. The only thing that can heal a broken heart is time.
2006-06-11 21:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, i was in the same boat...
You just have to take it one day at a time...find things to busy yourself to keep your mind off of him...you'll be fine...everyone is stronger than they think...and weaker, too...
2006-06-11 16:51:18 · answer #10 · answered by Chef Shortie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋