i been with my babyfather for 4 yrs,he's my 1st love, he's the only man i been with but he is in a different state with a new female but he calls me telling me that she's a nobody, and he only there with her for a place to stay, i know that not the truth, i told him were not together, he dont have to lie to me. He Told me he not lying to me but he laying up with her and her 4 kids playing daddy, when i'm upstate stuggling with our son. he wants me to move down there to be a family but i dont know what to do someone please please help me..
2006-06-11 09:40:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I can say maybe what you think but I'm not!!!! I say find a way to confront him face to face take a friend for road saftey and leave your child with the grandmother.
No one person deserves to worry the truth you will never get on the phone. At least you think so, are you would not be asking this go ease your mind your child needs a father and some things or worth standing up for.
Once you know the truth your feeling better either with him or you can find someone to love you and that child and be very happen in your life which is shorty than we ever wish for it to be.
2006-06-17 02:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, STOP AND READ WHAT YOU JUST SAID!!!
SURE go ahead and move down there where he is, that way he now has TWO (maybe more, you never know) women to take care of him. When she's mad at him, he can stay at your place. When you are mad at him he can stay at hers. Sounds like the best of all worlds FOR HIM. But in the meantime, what about you? The only thing you are going to accomplish by moving there is struggling in a different location.
Any man that can move away from you and your child to live with another woman DOES NOT love and want to be a family with you. You already know this. Don't let your loneliness and sadness over the situation lead you to making stupid decisions.
Ask yourself this and BE HONEST...if this was your child in your situation, what advice would you give to him or her? Really look at this objectively. I'm willing to bet you find the strength to tell him to kiss off.
2006-06-11 09:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but he's a lyin' piece of ****! My baby's dad was my 1st love too and he manipulated me and devestaed me more than anyone I've ever known. Don't move down there. Even if your heart says yes do not do this! He wants to play daddy with her kids but can't be a daddy to yours? I'm sorry but **** him. He sounds too much like my own baby's dad. Threaten to take his rights away, start a child support case, do whatever you got to girl. If he wants to be with you that much he can move back to where YOU are.
2006-06-11 09:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the dork to move his butt back and be a daddy to your son. Threaten to take custody away and make his dead beat A** pay child support. Your the mom and you are the one with the child. The courts will rule in your favor 99.9% of the time. What he needs is a good butt kicking.
2006-06-11 09:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to move to her town, that seems like he wants to play daddy in both homes. Whatever you do girl dont move away from your family and friends because if you and him have your outs you gonna be the one stuck not knowing what to do while he runs back to this chick
2006-06-11 09:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move down there and live with all of them, like a demented version of "Full House", only with Jesse making love to DJ and Stephanie while you (Bob Saget), cry into your pillow, dreaming of a day that you can stop putting up with Jesse's hijinks? No sir, I don't like it. Be your own woman. **** it, be your own woman with another woman, and when your babies father calls tell him how much better it was than his crusty old dick. Right?
2006-06-11 09:47:27 · answer #6 · answered by danielspectrum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something that you don't want to do but you have to think about your son. Right now he is the most important person in all of this.If you think that moving is going to help him as well as yourself than go for it. If you don't then do what feels right and what is best for you and your child.
2006-06-11 09:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by KAI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to mess around with you. If he really loved you, he'd be taking care of his own kid and not anyone else's. If he wants a family with you, let him come to you, although if he did that, I'd be concerned that he's calling the other woman saying the things he says about her to you.
2006-06-11 09:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Baby_latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have yo listen to your heart as cheesy as that sounds. There is a voice inside telling you what you should do. If you are doubting something the answer is always"NO". If it were yes than you would not even have asked yourself that question. Good luck!
2006-06-11 09:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately tell him to stay there and you go find a new man that loves YOU!!!
2006-06-11 09:44:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dumbass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋