How do you deal with some in your life that's a part of you. You really love them but they are such a problem to you, and have been for 7 years. And because of who you are you cannot help but keep trying to make things better. But the problem doesn't seem to go away. She's an angel but a devil, or like characteristics....................... Help !
2006-06-11 09:25:05 · 8 answers · asked by the ant ! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-06-11 09:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Firefox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the BEST cases, best love it tough love. Do you TRULY love her, or is this just a friend? Honestly, people walk into your life for a reason, letting them go could be a huge mistake on your part. Live your life for 1 week without them completely, then at the end of the week, think about how much you thought about that person, HOW you thought about that person, and how your life was different in that week. Was it good or bad changes? Then and only then will you truly be able to decide whether walking away from them is the best choice, or whether you'd rather deal with the unfortunate because you couldn't live without them....Good luck
2006-06-11 17:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by silvlply_lvle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to read through and understand your dilemma. More than likely you have been very lenient in the previous years. Now, it is very difficult to say "no" when you have to. You have to use tough love, learn to draw the line and without flexing, show who is in charge. You still have the time to correct the problem but it will not be easy. you have been taken for granted, been used and abused. Keep in mind that with time the problem will grow bigger and you will be unable to control the situation. The love that you have for her is also your weakness. you have to be strong and in control or she will play you and get the best out of you. If you cannot master the situation on your own, I suggest that you look for counseling. Better cry now but not later: it is more painful.
2006-06-11 18:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone is a problem for you they can not be good for you, nor to you. As far as you trying to make things better, it will take two. Have you every had a serious talk with this person and told them how you feel? If so was the person willing to try to make things better. I say try because we are guilty of meeting someone and falling in love with them, then we try to change them, and to be honest, that is not fair to them. If you want to spend the rest of your life and dealing with this person in the same situation, only continue doing what you are doing. If you want to continue and want things to get better, honestly tell this person how you feel and be willing to give serious consequences if it is not done. Good Luck
2006-06-11 16:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sweets 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person does more harm than good for you in your life, it is time to part ways. Sometimes we feel that because we've known a person for a long while, that they are too much a part of our lives to let go. Before you do that, though, you must communicate the way you feel to this person. If a relative or friend does not know that you are troubled by their behavior, than how do they know to stop? Anyone you know for whom you proclaim love deserves to know how they stand with you. I suggest opening up and telling this person the situation you find yourself in with them. However, only do so if you are truly prepared to walk away if that person's bad behavior persists. Good luck!
2006-06-11 16:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best love is tough love. It's not easy, and as vague as your question is, I can't say whether it's appropriate; but you really have to consider whether you are enabling the problem behavior. And, what is going to be better in the long run: Accepting more of the same, or drawing a line somewhere?
Good luck..
2006-06-11 16:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and help here. It is hard to understand and exactly what is going on in your relationship or marriage without more details. I am here if you need to talk and this sounds very serious!
2006-06-11 21:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is the root of so much pain. It is time to just move on even if this person is family. life is to short to keep people that cause you pain near you.
2006-06-11 16:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋