I have a 16 month old daughter she is a very good girl,but?

Question

When my daughter does not get what she wants she scream a very loud and annoying screech adn she will throw herself on the ground and cry, I really can't stand it and I pick her up because she is so loud, everyone in my family says she is spoil rotten because she does not come to them, I would like to know how can I stop her from acting out like this? please any help would be appreciated

Answer 1

Maybe she just doesn't want to be held by people who consider her to be spoiled rotten and consider her mother to be a bad parent! Kids are very perceptive, you know!!

Answer 2

Next time she does this, and every time thereafter, tell her very firmly to stop. If she doesn't (and she won't for a while because it has worked for her in the past), grab her gently by the ankle and drag her into her bedroom or a child-proofed bathroom and leave, shutting the door behind you.

When she comes out, if she does the same thing again, repeat the "stop", and drag her back.

After a few times she'll figure out that she's not going to get what she wants and look for other ways. Make sure you pick her up and praise her for things she does correctly, but isolate her when she throws a temper tantrum.

Answer 3

(((hugs))) She isn't "spoiled" she is right in her age bracket...she gets separation anxiety toward 'strangers' (ANYONE but Mom and or Daddy)...also getting close to 18 months!! She's learning soooooooo many new things..about herself (screaming? Hey! It gets Moms attention!! WOW!!) and her enviornment. She's learning that she can do so many things, and have control over what happens. This is NORMAL! Do go get the book "What To Expect, The Toddler Years" It's awesome and shows what Im talking about....what you can expect (and should expect intelligence wise) for each age range.

One thing I've never forgotten from child education classes. Attention of 'any' sort is still attention. Even negative...getting in trouble is still attention. They suggested that if the child is having a tantrum, and is not hurting themselves or anyone else..to just **IGNORE** it. Eventually, they'll see it's not working and stop.

How to 'stop'....this isn't abuse...(!!) but you can lightly tap her mouth with your fingers when she screams and say "NO NO" and give her a small time out. (1 minute per year..approx)..take her away from things, but her in her crib or playpen and say "Mommy says no screaming"..and just come back in a minute...give her a BIIIG hug and kiss "I love you, my good girl" and let her go. But FOLLOW THROUGH with what limits you set up! They learn SO FAST who will and who won't..and believe me, she'll push them.

Also, side note...you've heard about the "terrible 2s"....for many people, 3's are even harder. My daughter, God love her, was a little chit!!

LOVE HER..Enjoy every moment...she'll grow up so fast..I know its hard.Setting limits *now*, shows her what love really is too...loving her enough to want her to be the best she can be. :) (Ignore your critics, it's also normal family bs...sad but true..)

Answer 4

You are going to have to let her "cry herself out" a few times.She has learned that by screeching she gets her way. You may have to plug your ears, leave the room or even leave another person who will NOT pick her up in charge while you walk around the block. As long as you reward this behavior, she WILL induldge in it. The shock of you not responding may be enough, or you may have to do this repeatedly, but you ARE going to have to do it. Do NOT put her in her crib, as she will then associate bad things w/bedtime but a safe corner of a room or a playpen will work-that is if you can't let her have her tantrum where she is.

Answer 5

Children of this age really tend to get attention from the parents most often! They want to be the center of attention of the people arround them. What I know about this situation is children should be exposed to the different things arround especially with the different children of the same age. Let them cry as long as they want and they will just be tired of crying. In this case, they will realize that not all the time they cry, you will be pampering and pacifying them. This is called "reverse child psychology"
The more you pamper children when they cry coz they did not get wht they want, the more superior will they be!

Answer 6

"Positive Discipline: The First Three Years-Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child" by Jane Ed.D. Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, Roslyn Duffy

Answer 7

You're not going to like this, but you have to just let her scream. Just leave her there. Do not respond to that kind of behavior. It is normal for children her age to do that, and if you just don't respond, eventually she will learn how to get what she wants properly. At home, teach her how to behave in stores. Tell her if she is good, she will get to come with you. If she cannot behave, she will have to stay home (I know that's not always feasible, but it's one way of handling it). The most important thing is to not respond to that kind of behavior at all. Pretend you can't understand her when she does that - you can't understand what she is telling you unless she is speaking calmly. If she's crying, you can't tell what she wants. Give her things she is not screaming for. Pretend you can't understand her when she is screaming for a cookie and you think she is saying she wants a spoon. Eventually, it will pass. In the meantime, good luck.

Answer 8

i have a 17 month old boy. he is the same way. i think my son acts like this because i breastfed exclusively for so long. i hope he grows out of it soon. my doctor reccommends ignoring him when he screams and asking him to tell me what he wants in a calm voice. even though he cannot talk yet this has been working and he is starting to just make softer noises and hand gestures to get what he wants. also i try to respond quickly when he asks for something nicely first without screaming.

Answer 9

Let her sit there and act out. It will honestly help. She'll eventually notice that she can't get what she wants by being a brat. I do that with certain children at the day care center I work at. They try to get back on my good side after I ignore them.

Answer 10

dont run to her every time she wants something that she cant have.she only does it cause she knows that u will eventually give up. just let her cry it out. tell her no. i know i have 4 kids ages 8-6-4-and 2. one point in time they did it. If it happens when your home just walk away to another room for a little while. Its not going to hurt them. Now when is no is no. is no longer WW3