I am currently unemployed and I have an interview this week for a job that's a twenty minute drive away. My husband doesn't like the idea of me driving that far everyday and says I should just keep looking. I have an excellent chance of getting this position and we need the money. What should I do?
2006-06-11 08:56:51 · 24 answers · asked by prettypixie1997 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Since your husband doesn't want you to commute that far and you need the money, the tell him HE can get a second job and you won't have to drive anywhere but the grocery store !
I would go for the job personally if it was something I wanted to do.
Good Luck and I have confidence that you will do very well in your interview.
2006-06-11 09:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Texas 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide if your husband is just stating the fact that there will be a daily forty minute commute or does it really bother him? Why doesn't he like the idea of you driving every day. Wear and tear on the car? Too much gas? Chance of an accident? Or does he just want to make sure you will be home so you can have dinner ready for him? You can bring up the salary factor but if he is adamant about the drive, then you may have to work closer to home just to keep the peace. Everybody needs money. Maybe you can change your spending habits.
2006-06-11 16:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get offered the position, and it's a job that will pay well and offer good benefits... you should take it. A 20 minute commute is not far. The money will come in handy if you really need it, and you can continue to look for another position closer to home if it's that much of a concern.
2006-06-11 19:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Metalhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I hate commuting, sometimes we have to do what we have to do.
Would the cost of maintaining the car (insurance, maintenance, gas) eat significantly into your income? Does the 20 minute commute eat significantly into your life (your time for your husband, family, and so on)? We already know that driving alone depletes the health of our environment, so that answer is already a 'yes.'
If no, and you really need the money, then your hubby may have to accept this one for a while. Perhaps you can find something closer to home in the future when you're in a better position to be choosy about the location of your job.
2006-06-11 16:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by warehaus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You'll get the job, and after the first paycheck the drive won't seem that long.
Although I have to wonder about twenty minutes being too long a drive. I gather you live in a small town. Where I live, some people's commute is over an hour--each way.
2006-06-11 16:01:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure its just a 20 minute drive? I can't imagine someone being against the idea of driving 20 minutes. Most people drive 30-45 minutes to work each day.
Go for it. Once you get the job and money starts rolling in......I bet your husband won't complain.
2006-06-11 16:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by shakia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 minutes??? he's complaining about 20 minutes?? i used to travel at least an hour to work everyday. 20 minutes is nothing! you could try this approach, tell your hubby you will take the position if it is offered and continue to look for another position. Also try using several agencies. Sometimes they have better luck. and you can test drive the position for a bit. I used AppleOne, took temp positions, now i work 2 minutes from home if that one light stays green. good luck!
2006-06-11 16:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to assume you're a big girl since you're married. If you are, then you need to do what you feel is right. Your husband not wanting you to drive for twenty minutes is his problem, insecurity, and a need to control you, probably. If you really want the job and need the money, then follow your gut. Don't let your husband brow beat you into not doing something you really want to, or into doing anything you don't want to either.
2006-06-11 16:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by quietwalker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're husband sounds very controlling. Twenty minutes is nothing, I have traveled one hour to get to a job. You take jobs because of what they offer, monetarily and professionally. I agree with other writers, that if your husband thinks this is too far, he can get a second job to make up the difference.
2006-06-11 16:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by chaucer18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not your car breaking down that you are worried about, is there alternative transportation? for example-i never commuted for this reason, then i finally got brave enough to do it- and it was well worth it for me...when my car got totalled, i could still ride the bus til i got another one (also, if your husband's car breaks down & he needs yours this would work) 20 minutes is not all that far- do you get bad storms (winter or summer) where you live? Also if there are different ways of getting there (alternative routes) then weather is not always an issue. But since you are not working now Go for it!
2006-06-11 16:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by bonbon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋