Here's the situation. A few of my "friends" like to call me and talk to me for hours sometimes, but then other times they act like I don't exist. One week they might call me a couple of times a week to actually talk about something or just to say hello and see if I'm alive. However, the next week or the next two weeks they don't call at all. Then when they finally do call, they call me while they are waiting in line or somewhere in public waiting for someone or something and then when it's ready they just say let me call you back and they don't. Or, they'll wait until they need something or have a question or want to talk about something that they need advice or help with then they can't find my number fast enough. One of them even had the nerve to ask me where was I when I didn't answer the phone one time. Am I being petty or dramatic? Or is this something I should be concerned about? Are these people really my friends? Could they just be busy or using me? What's the real deal?
2006-06-11 08:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by pmek15 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To Marianne G, I'm a man and I'm not gay, not that there's anything wrong with that. I'm just saying that your advice doesn't help me becuase I don't want or need a steady boyfriend. To the other person Puter something, I did call them but I stopped because they seemed so unavailable. I like to call my friends to make sure they're still alive at least. I understand that they have lives and I know I'm not the center of their lives but I was under the impression that friends made time for each other. Even if it's just a few minutes out of a week. I don't want to talk to them all the time but an email or a phone call saying hello how are you once a week doesn't seem like too much to me. It's not so much that they don't call every week it's that when they do call it's because they're bored or they need something. I have my own problems and issues and I'm not a shrink. Would you want to be friends with someone who only called you when they needed help? Thanks for the opinions so far.
2006-06-11 08:59:34 · update #1
At least they call you. Why sweat the small stuff.
2006-06-11 08:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get you a steady boyfriend.
What you have there is complicated: you have to be able to distinguish between those who truly care about you as a person and those who just use you as a filler. That's not so easy, but I think in time you will learn that.
Good friends do not need to touch bases every day or every week---it depends on what type of friendship they have....so, like I said:
Get you a steady boyfriend and let him handle the rest.......
2006-06-11 08:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And do you ever call them, just to chat or to ask advice, and then don't call for a while because you're busy and have a life?
I think you're reading much to much into this. They do have lives apart from you, and yet you sound like they should just call you all the time. Do you do that with them?? I doubt it. Put yourself in their shoes, or put them in yours and review your feelings. I think you'll find you're out of line thinking they are using you.
2006-06-11 08:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God constantly even as making an attempt, as God is helping individuals who aid themselves as an alternative than those who find themselves lazy. Lord Krisna stated in Bhagavad Gita, we need to bring out our works and surrender the fruit of our movement. So we need to hold making an attempt and uncover pleasure in doing our paintings, whether or not or now not we get the preferred outcome. We will have to now not lose wish. Do your quality and depart the relaxation to God,it's going to all come proper a few day or night time.
2016-09-08 23:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't real friends. They call you because of boredom and a need to talk to anyone. You happen to be home, so they talk to you. I'd suggest you magically get busy 5 minutes after they call, and need to hang up. If you like their friendship and want to continue it, then confront them. But as is, its just for their benefit not yours.
2006-06-11 08:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump them as friends. get sum new and better ones. usually they call you to use you and they will call you every now and then just to make you think they care but they really dont.
so drop them.
2006-06-11 08:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by demi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like they are using you.they are defenitely not treating you like a good friend.
2006-06-11 08:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theyre using u from wat i understand..
have they done anything nice? ever called just to tlk?
if not then forget about them
2006-06-11 08:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by WAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋