How do you kick a so called friend out of your house who was only supposed to stay for two weeks?

Question

I use to work with this girl, who I thought we were close but found out we were not. I am such a nice person after I quit the job all of a sudden months later she is calling and invites me out to a club, so I went thinking we could be friends again but she ignored me the whole night once her other friends arrived. Then she calls me and tells me her and her b-friend are no longer together and if she could stay with me for two weeks. I agreed.....Now it has been longer she has totally disrepected my house and used me and one day I couldn't even get into my own house because she was sleep and didn't want to get up to let me in. She has kids as well and I have two and she has already depended on me to watch the kids. I want her out how can I make her go without being mean or is their something I can do to make her leave. HELP

I am not strong enough to say it's time you go I it has to be done in different ways and she is a ghetto girl who would probably get mad and tear my stuff up

Answer 1

You don't have to be mean but you can be very firm. Tell her this is not working out for you to have a roommate and give her a deadline to be out and tell her from now on you will not watch her kids. As the deadline approaches, remind her of it. If she gets mad, then so be it. She can get glad the same way she got mad.

Answer 2

You have to be honest with her and ask her to leave. I know you don't want her on the street without a place to live since she has kids. So, give her until the end of the month to find a place. You did not say if she was helping with the expenses, if so, tell her to save her money on the expenses for the rest of the month but she needs to find somewhere else to live. Even offer to help her find a place but that is all you should do. Do not offer to pay anything toward helping her move. You may want to help her pack because some of your items may also move. Let her find on her on method of moving, that is find her on help if she needs it. Also, make sure you have a definite date that she plans to move and make sure you are there, for again some of your furniture may move also.
This person totally used you kind hearted nature to get into your house and you need to turn that around immediately and watch your back at all times. I do not think you owe this person anything.
If you think about it, this person only called you when it suited her needs. She was never a true friend. I do not understand the part about getting in to your house when she was asleep, don't you have a key or have more than one key?

Answer 3

Tell her that she has come into your house and totally disrespected you and your generousity. Tell her that her 2 weeks is up and that she needs to go cause she is just using you and you cant deal with it anymore.

And if she still doesnt go, when she is out, put her things on the streets and call the police and tell them the situation. There is no way you could be nice in this kind of situations especially when this person is taking advantage of you. Be strong and dont let her try to talk you out of it.

Answer 4

This is a big problem today with alot of people, Be firm with her, if that doesn't work, you can call a magistrate,in your area and they can usually give you advice, remember though, once you get her out of your house, think twice next time before you ever allow anyone to stay again, once you invite someone in by a verbal agreement it is not always easy to get them out.

Answer 5

You said that you thought that you were close but have discovered that you are not. Ok then put her out. You are not responsible for someone else's misfortune. You have done your good deed and it has been unappreciated. My husband and I had to move in with my aunt for about 6 months. We initially thought that it would only be three. My aunt didn't ask me to leave, but I knew that I had worn out my welcome. She must be able to sense it too. Suggest that she find somewhere to go by the 1st of July. If she doesn't, send her to a shelter. Evidently she's using you.

Answer 6

Pack her things up and change the locks on the door... I have been in that situation a few times until one day i just said it's time for you to leave..Just half to be strong and tell her like it is. She doesnt sound like much of a friend to me. Funny how the older you get the less bull you put up with

Answer 7

If you are under 18 then your mother is legally obliged to look after you.If you past 18 then move out and find somewhere else to live.If you are at school then talk to the counselor.They can help you. You should not have yelled at your mum.Try apologizing to your mum which might help smoothe things over.Things are often said in the heat of the moment when things are tense.

Answer 8

Just kick her out, she doesn't deserve a friend like you.
There are times in which we have to be serious about stuff, so don't think you are mean for just being claiming your own space.
Tell her to go away, that she took more than given and that's not nice at all.

Answer 9

Be blunt and sit her down and say "You were only supposed to stay for two weeks, you have to go, and I am giving you three days to find another place to stay" Like someone said above...if you have to get mean, do it. Its YOUR house, and you said yourself she is disrespecting you and your home. Sounds like she uses people to her convienence. Kick her to the curb..she isn't no friend, she is a user!! Good luck

Answer 10

Some times you have to get mean so people like that can get the point.