help what do you make of all this?

Question

ok 8 year relationship 3 kids on and off alot of problems and did hurt each other but never cheated on each other. but always friends and still click when we talk but i dont know what she thinks, she left me 4 month ago as it did get to bad, i went through all the stages depression ect we got all the issues out now and the anger from both us is over and we both accept a form of responsibilitie, anyways we have went from not talking to getting along great but she says just as friends. now the other night she said to me when talking about getting back together -
"i dont want no one else"
"i just dont want a relationship right now"
"if i did you would be a prioritie and top of the list"
"also i am not making no promises"
question looking at the situation what do you think?
bear in mind she speaks to me at her house but not on msn or anything like that and wont go anywere with me or the kids.
am i been a fool to keep hanging on and just give her time?i love her so much,and will wait

ok thanks all, made my decision, im not interested in anyone else either anyways dont think i ever will be, so im gonna do what will hurt but i think is best and move on as i have been obviously but rather than thinking we will get back toegther im just gonna think we wont then if we do it will probablys feel nicer anyways and even though i have put pressure on her really i would want it to be her descion anyways, also to answer others, yes i can do this and have been for help and i feel i am ready for this now more than i ever was at 19yrs old+ i really have learnt alot through this but want to show her lol.

funny enough the descion i have made is what she told me to do in the dam well first place lol see why i love her?

Answer 1

KEBLAH!

Answer 2

Sounds to me that she made all the decisions- totally dominated you and even when she wanted out- after all was said and done she still kept u hanging on.

think you are a very strong person inspite of all your depression and feelings toward her- did the right thing being able to move on and be there for your children-- they are the most important people here- so leave it alone for a while when your ready go out- enjoy yourself ansd u never know the girl of your dreams may just be around the corner-- give yourself a pat on the back though well done!!

Answer 3

You guys are really confused -- It would take some therapy to get your heads on straight. I'm glad I'm not involved with either of you -- feel sorry for your children...they probably are confused as well, and probably not doing well in school. Good luck. You are what is call a "disfunctional family", and you won't get any better without help. Good luck...........

Answer 4

I don't understand the question. But God doesn't like divorce, and I hope you two will get back together. Good luck! Sorry bout the whole situation too. My parents are divorced b/c of my dad. I hate him, but you still love her, so get back together!

Answer 5

You've been dumped friend. You have to consider the kids somehow but she is a spent penny.

Move on, wiser, older, sadder and more cynical but hey you have a fresh new page to work on.

Answer 6

then wait for her. you guys have too much history and baggage together to just give up...especially if u can still get along. u need to think of ur childeren and dont be selfish in this situation.

Answer 7

Wait a little longer. She's is probably tired of your ways and realizes that she can't tolerate the ways you have.

Answer 8

She doesn't want to get into that trick bag again. You have to legitimatly prove to her that it will not happen again. Can you handle that? If not move on.

Answer 9

Get over it, move on. She's done with you but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Answer 10

let go