how should you ask and not aquise your friend if he/she robbed money from you at a party in your house.?

Question

AFTER A WORKS DO FOUR OF MY FRIENDS ACCOMPANIED ME HOME AND WE HAD A FEW MORE DRINKS BEFORE THEY WENT HOME AND THE NEXT MORNING THE WIFE HAD A FEW HUNDERED QUID MISSING FROM HER WALLET . NOW I HAVE TO APPROACH THEM ALL EVEN TOUGH I DONT BELIEVE THEY WOULD DO THIS TO ME .hOW DO YOU BE TACTFUL IN THIS SITUATION .

Answer 1

What works best is to go in through the back door. Start by telling them how we as humans sometimes make big mistakes and that it isn't always a bad thing. Explain that sometimes we do "odd" things because we think what we are doing is right. Like, taking something we "think" we wanted or needed but really didn't. Tell them that friendship is much more important than money and that you would forgive a friend for taking money from you. Don't let them deny taking the money, just tell them to listen to you and keep downplaying the theft as if it was a stupid mistake and that you really want to forgive the person who took the money. When you have fully explained your passive position on this problem, aske them.."now, is there something you wish to tell me?" They will quickly deny the theft but stop them immediately and tell them "trust builds a friendly relationship, not lies". NEVER accuse them, but ask them if "they have someting to tell you" AFTER you have explained to them you are not mad and understand it was a mistake. If you do it right, they will admit the theft and even work out a way to pay you back. I am a professional investigator and have credentials on interviewing and interrogating theives. Take your time and don't raise your voice and do what I said. They will feel guilty and want to tell you about their secret. Trust me, I doo this for a living.

Answer 2

Is there ANY possibility it could have been dropped or lost at some other point?

You could say, "Hey, guys, did you see anyone go into my wife's wallet? We're missing X pounds (is that a quid?) and need to find it!" Or you could ask each one if they say one of the others go into your wife's wallet (Like you don't suspect THEM just maybe one of the other guys).

That's tough, though. If you know them really well, they may be hurt, but SOMETHING happened to it.

Answer 3

Call me a cynic, but...

You saw the few hundred quid in her purse? You know for a fact that she had that kind of money laying around loose in the house?

Is she ok with your drunken buddies coming over and hanging out?

I don't think there is any "good" way to confront your friends and ask them about missing money. You may lose them all as friends.

I would suggest she not keep that kind of money where someone could take it.

Answer 4

Approach each one separately and apart, and tell them the situation and ask them how they would ask the other 3. That way that person doesn't think they are under suspicion. Watch closely as you talk. You should be able to tell from their reactions if one of them took it or suspects any of the others.

Answer 5

Just tell them that your money went missing on the day they were over at your place and you would like to know if any of them notice it or saw anyone moved it.

Answer 6

If it was me I would would be kicking some as*. If they stole it their not going to tell you. The only thing you can do is talk to each one and see which one is more nervous. The one who sweats is going through the wall.

Answer 7

Just ask them if they stole the money. And if none of them confess, get your heater and blow their brains out. That's how I used to do it in the good old days.