we are bad because im getting engaged and im moving to Puerto Rico. We live in Connecticut and she and I had been friends for like 5 years now. She is so mad at me that she wont even talk to me, its been 2 months of this and school is going to start soon and basiclly our schedules are the same.Its going to feel weird having her around when she is mad at me for nothing. I tried talking to her but she doesnt want to. Its very weird because we are both 21 and I could go out and everything but she has a curfew at 9 o'clock and she needs to be in church 3 times a week. We are very different but I love her a lot! she is like the sister I never had, though she is mad at me I feel weird not talking to her for so long. What should I do? Do you believe this was a true friendship? Of what I know is that friends stick through you in good and bad times, why is she being so selfish now that Im going to take on of the most important steps of my life...
2006-06-11 05:48:36 · 14 answers · asked by ChikaMaliciosa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
WELL I KINDA WENT THROUGH THE SAME THING .. TRY TO WORK IT OUT BEFORE YOU GO TRY TO LISTEN TO EACH OTHER DONT BE STUBBORN ABOUT THE OTHERS REASONS.... MY FRIEND AND FAMILY ARE TRYING TO UNDERSTAND...
2006-06-24 20:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by angel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are both 21 and it sounds like you lead very different lives. She has a curfew and church several times a week. I wonder if she tends to be shy and a little reclusive too? Maybe part of the reason she was drawn to you as a friend is because you are more out going and you showed her a glimpse of another kind of life. Now that you are to be married and move far away, she is probably very sad, and afraid that now she will only know the life she has, instead of one she might want. I guess she was vicariously living through you.
I would write her a long letter and tell her that you are sorry that she is angry with you, that you love her deeply and that even though you are getting married and moving, no one or no geographical location can change the fact that you are her friend. Be sure to tell her that you are looking forward to hanging out with her before you move, but if she can't do that, then you will make sure she always knows how to reach you.
Then you need to go on about your life. You should not feel guilty for being in love and getting married. You are getting ready to start a very exciting time in your life and you should be able to concentrate on that. You have put the ball in her court, and it will be up to her to see if she will act like an adult or a little girl.
Congratulations on the wedding! Best of luck.
2006-06-11 15:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations! Second, friendships are very difficult relationships...especially for the female species. We are so moody & emotional beings...but that's how God designed us. I know this is hard to do, but try not to take it personally. It's not you she's mad at, it's the fact that you are moving away. She feels as if she's losing you. (I've been in her shoes. Although you're happy that your bf has found that somebody special, you realize that the dymanics of your friendship has now changed forever.) If she's your friend, she will come around. Let her work through whatever it is she needs to work through...but still keep loving her. Love her from a distance...give her her space. You're not wrong & she's just going to have to get used to the fact that things change, but again, you still love her! Another tip, send her little cards or notes from time to time just to say "I love ya' & I'm thinkin' about 'cha'." That works. Trust me. I've had to do that myself with a very good friend.
2006-06-24 22:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by Glo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your best friend is jealous of you. I think she is jealous because you're getting married and you're moving somewhere else. Friends are supposed to share good times and bad times and be there when you need them the most. You're right when you've shared your definition of a friend. I know that you've tried talking to her but try talking to her again. Find out why is she mad at you. She had no reason to be mad at you. She should be happy for you. Since you're getting married, at least now you know who your true friends are. If she is not willing to talk to you, move on. Find new friends who will share your happiness and not be jealous of you. This is hard, so keep your head held up high and focus on the fact that you're getting married soon. Congragulations by the way!!!
2006-06-11 12:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has a curfew at 9 and she is 21!! Well I would tell her what you said that you love her like a sister and you want the friendship back and if she is unwilling then you will know it was not a true friendship.
2006-06-24 19:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by bern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was a true friend she would quit being so childish and talk to you. If I was you, I would forget about her. If she doesn't want anything to do with you then Get Over It. Its Over. Who needs friends like that. I would just ignore her at school and just go about my life like she does not exist. If she doesn't want to have a relationship with you anymore and that is very obvious, it does not matter if you love her or not or she is like a sister - She is not a true friend to you. Get over it and find someone out there in this mixed up world who will be a true friend to you.
You will find many many friends in P.R. good luck
2006-06-24 10:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people change as they age. i have a best frind since i was 4. we changed, grew up and moved away from each other but remained freinds and visited one another through the years.we had a fight and grew apart and i regret the fight and i fought years to get her back because she was an impt part of me and my life.as you grow up your life changes and you may not be in the same place in your lives but friendship like that is rare and shouldnt be thrown out just because you are having differences. give her time and space and try again to get through to her..i dont think she is being selfish so much. i think shes just scared of loosing you and you guys need to talk about that.
2006-06-11 12:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by chasemeto2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not being selfish, she doesn't want to c u anymore because it wont hurt her as bad when you leave as it would if you were with her everyday did you ever think you might be the only outside life she has seeing that her parents are very strict you are hurting her but not intentionally she is happy for you but hits is the end for her and she wont be able to take a goodbye
2006-06-24 16:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
concentrate on the move. when your ready to leave. if you cant meet in person at least leave a sweet gift with a picture of you both having fun. avoid the drama and avoid leave lasting damage. she needs longer time to process her emotions. when you arrive in your new home send her a letter and an open invitation to visit, always.
2006-06-24 16:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by the_digital_godfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing until that sourpuss grows up. She is just ticked off because you are moving on with your life and she is still pissed because mommy and daddy have a leash on her. Don't feel bad just because she is bitter about your life style.
2006-06-23 11:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend sounds like her feelings are hurt, bad, talk to her, tell her how much you care for her and want her as your friend and dont want to lose her,as a friend . NOBODY is worth losing your best friend, good luck let me know how things go
Mark
Mrklcoac2002@yahoo.com
2006-06-25 12:15:01 · answer #11 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋