Many men know they have a good thing but takes the chance of destroying their relationship. Why do they think it is nothing when they do it and we should automatically forgive them but if it was the other way around they call it quits? Should a woman completely trust him again or what should she do? One thing is that she truly loves her husband and cherishes her relationship with him but moreso with God, but how can she be at peace when she knows that there is a chance it may happen again. What has happened to real love, honesty, and loyalty?
2006-06-11 05:10:54 · 24 answers · asked by Sistawhowannaknow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My grandfather told me a long time ago that some men like "no-good" women...And he should know because even though he was married to my grandmother, who was & still is a strong willed,hard working,God fearing,passionate,devoted woman(his description) he still cheated.He went out & found some"old stray" who was a loud,conniving,lazy,whorish,money-hungry heathen.(his description)BUT she gave good mouth s- - !!!(his words)Long story short, this was back in the day and he stayed with the woman even though he wanted to be back with my grandmother(he made it known to all that would listen) but she moved on remarried, loved and lived life to the fullest(and still does)..He on the other hand had several ungrateful children(who grew to be ungrateful adults) with this woman, he could never get ahead in life(financially,spiritually or otherwise) he ended up being diagnosed with prostate cancer and the majority of his family didn't know because she had alienated them from him.His wife & kids couldn't really find the time to visit him with their "hectic work schedules", but as he lay there he asked for her..My grandmother..And she came...She had forgiven him a long time ago, he apologized,made his peace with her and the next morning he passed away alone...So even though it may seem that it takes a long time,but you do reap what you sow..Trust in God(not man) to make the husband act accordingly...Real love,honesty and loyalty still exist, I think you have to listen to your head a little more than your heart and definitely keep your ears and eyes OPEN and don't always take things at face value,but don't be paranoid..(learn the median)Ask questions if things don't genuinely feel right and learn God's voice(discernment) He'll show you some things!! Peace,Love and Blessings..
2006-06-11 05:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I knew the answer to this question I would be a millionaire selling books on it. My best instinct answer: Men are different then women. Women are loyal for the most part, and have a nuturing nature or motherly nature in them (for the most part). If you have children, then I am sure he can see this in you. Some men no longer desire their wife's after they see them in a motherly role. They want to see the lover role.
Second, by nature men are hunters. I think they like the short term excitement (such as gambling) and the risk involved. They get laid, and do not care for the person at all. That makes them feel like it isn't cheating, since they love their wife and don't plan on leaving their wife or screwing the same woman again.
Then you have the one that just wants it all. He has a mistress that is usually very different from his wife. That way he can have all of what he wants. The wonderful wife he married, and then the mistreses that may have one thing about her that he is attracted to, but doesn't like all of her.
Well they do it again? Depends on the consequences from the first time he did it, how sorry and bad they feel from doing it, if they have a conscience or not, and if there is another opportunity for this to happen again. It is like a robber getting caught for stealing. When he gets out, will he steal again? Does anyone have an answer? Only the robber.
Hope that helps some.
2006-06-11 06:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by susanmarie1900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because often a 'good' woman will sit back and get lazy. Honesty, love and loyalty have to be earned and passion is necessary. Women let themselves go, they forget that they need to fulfill his need for fun & sex whilst accepting his time & money. If a man has an affair it is because there is something missing. I make very very sure that my husband wouldn't want to look elsewhere but if he did I would examine why, not bleat about it, as I packed to leave.
2006-06-11 11:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you got cheated on. That sucks. But many women cheat too.... anywhere from a third to half depending on which study you believe. The fact is there are both honest and dishonest PEOPLE. You'll probably never completely trust him again, but you might find you trust him enough to give it another try. Go with your heart, but don't let your heart take you somewhere that your brain knows is a lost cause.
Good luck.
2006-06-11 05:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by just_a_guy_in_florida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have a biological imperative to have sex with as many women as possible. You could be the best woman ever and still get cheated on. They think it was nothing because sex is casual for men, women require emotional involvement. A woman will not completely trust him again, and will be second guessing herself about him all the time.
If he thinks it is nothing, he probably isn't sorry about it and will do it again. Dump him.
2006-06-11 05:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are selfish they dont know a good thing til its gone. they dont recognize what they got. they want you but if u did it they say u are wrong women i know should trust them completely anymore i mean u can try but it will always be in the back of your head knowin what he did. you thinks its gone buts it isntyou can be at peace again by doin what he did to you and sayin now we are even honesty and all that is still there but things happen
2006-06-11 05:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by kiki aka lady lebron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well y did it happen and i wouldnt i mean some men just need sex and the women wont give it to them and some just are jerks and think they are a P.I.M.P. She has to get back out there but she doesnt have to rush, not everybody is going to hurt her. Im sorry for the jerk that did.
GOD forgives maybe she should too.
GOD bless you.
2006-06-11 05:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jetta C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its still there...although being keep along time..They cheat cs they are born with it its already on their system that there very weak when it comes to temptation.Even they know that it might ruined his family and everything but still he will do it cos he is weak,and could satisfy his groin...sometimes they say (men)lets try another dish I kinda bored with the same dish every night...Men were born Philanderers
2006-06-11 05:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by effy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be someone's good woman in their life, but he kept cheating. I didnt get it at all. I am not supermodel in looks but im not UGLY by general standards and I am normally kind.
Well he usually tells me its just nothing. All the women were random anyway. But I couldnt take it, so thats that. ;)
2006-06-11 05:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by happybeanstalk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and I agree with you. A woman like that doesn't deserve a man like that. Seriously, that pisses me off when it happens.
2016-03-27 00:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋