Here is the story. Last night I was at the wedding of my best friend's little brother, we'll call him Adam. Adam got married, and as one would imagine, his whole family was there. His mother, father, brother, sister, etc etc. Well, during the course of the night, I was spending time talking with all of his family members as we drank and made merry. At one point, Adam's little sister's fiance, Ralph, came over to talk to me. He confided in me that just last weekend, he had cheated on Adam's little sister (she's 25), and that she didn't know about it.
As a long time friend of the family, I'm trapped with this information. My loyalty to the family is both the reason I feel I SHOULD tell them what Ralph has done, and also the reason I SHOULDN'T, in that I don't want to ruin an engagement. I feel I should say something though...even though Ralph told me of his cheating in the strictest of confidence.
What would you do?
2006-06-11 04:50:42 · 10 answers · asked by Mr. O'Clock 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please, please, please tell her or at least your best friend. My husband cheated on me for years and a lot of people knew about it.It made the situation worse. I feel like they were laughing at how stupid I was for not knowing. I also felt betrayed by them. They are NOT my friends; they and my husband made me feel like such a loser. My husband and I are working on our marriage and he and I lost a lot of good friends over his cheating. My life will never be the same. I will never trust my husband again and a lot of joy at the 'little things' is now gone.
2006-06-11 06:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by crystal17343 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Seeing as though you're really close to this family, Adam's little sister needs to know whats going on behind her back. Nothing hurts me more than to see a woman getting cheated on and she's blind to the whole situation. If you don't want Ralph to know you snitched, leave a love letter to Ralph from another woman where Adam's sister can find it. Personally, I left a thong on my friends car antenna and wrote on a little piece of paper "Tell your b/f he can keep these as a souvenir". They broke up the next day. He was cheating on her, anyway.
2006-06-11 05:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by carolinaz_most_wanted85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time that people think that they are helping it come back to haunt them. You tell the sister and then they stay together, get married, ect. and they will think of you as a trouble maker. tell "Adam" or his mother and then let them decide what to do. That way you havnt kept it a secret and your not the bad guy. Either way good luck, your in the middle now and thats never good.
2006-06-11 04:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by SnakeyB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a serious decision, and Ralph is clearly not ready for a marriage. The fiancee deserves to know before she gets married. Talk to Ralph, tell him you really think he needs to fess up to her, and if he doesn't you will.
2006-06-11 05:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in that situation I would let her know because if it was me I would want someone to tell me. Just think if he contiunes to do this he could give her an STD or anything. Think of what it could do to her later down the road.
2006-06-11 12:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by leftys_rowdy_rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get in contact with the cheater,and tell him that if he doesnt tell her that he cheated,you will tell her.you should have told that to him the same night he told you.all he did by telling you was let it off his chest so he could feel better about himself cause he has so much guilt on his conscious.but that is what i would do,that or dont do anything.the choice is yours.
2006-06-11 10:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by alexander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard. I wanna tell you to tell her but on the other hand, maybe you should just stay out of it. Cause YOUR NAME WILL get involved and you will be right in the middle. If he is doing this, he will get cought somehow and you won't be to blame
2006-06-11 04:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by mistywebb00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like this family. You can not win her. Forget you ever heard it and then jump in and help her when the sure-to-happen split comes about.
2006-06-11 05:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by wooly2223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she has a right to know. or get him to confess. yes she will be hurt but in the end she will thank you for not keeping that from her
2006-06-11 05:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself. She will find out herself soon enough if he is a philanderer.
2006-06-11 04:54:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋