Everyone says me and my fiance of 2 years should get married before the baby?

Question

Planning a wedding and having a baby its too stressful what do you think?

Answer 1

It all depends on what you believe. Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with not being married and having a baby. I was 5 months pregnant when my husband and I were sitting on the couch and he just looked and me and asked me to marry him.. So we did! 3 DAYS later. We each invited our closest friend and that was it. We have an 8 month old now and are planning on having a reception of some sort where we can exchange vows in front of everyone. I'm glad that we did it that way. It will be hard to have a wedding and a baby, but don't just do it because everyone else is telling you to. It's your life so do it when the time is right for you and your fiancee.

Answer 2

Well a wedding doesnt have to be stressfull you can always keep it simple.

The question is whether or not you are gonna regret Not being married when your little one is born...

If deep down you'd prefer to be married first, (after all you are already fianced) GO FOR IT! With a little help you can have a very nice ceremony - leave all the annoying little details in the hands of someone you trust, like your mom or bestfriend.

But its up to you. Being preganant can be overwhelming already, and married life if a whole new ball game.

If you are thinking of marrying soon after the baby is born, you are gonna have even less time (sleepless nights, poopy diapers etc)

The most important is how you feel about MARRIAGE right now, not just the wedding.

Answer 3

I say u know best. I'm old fashion in that sense i want to get married before i have my children. While my mom had me before she and my dad got married. Either way is great. But though they are making suggestions none of them have to do what u are. If u want a big wedding u might want to wait but if u do wait most likely ur not going to be getting married soon after the baby is born. Planning a wedding having a baby is easier than having a crying, growing baby/toddler and planning a wedding so maybe u should do it now. Unless ur willing to wait another 2yrs at least.

Answer 4

There are alot of things in life that are stressful, and if we based things on getting done or not done because its too stressful, nothing would ever get done. I think you may be a tad lazy. As far as getting married before the baby is born is messed up. Its certainly a good idea for a baby to have a mom and dad who are married and have that Ozzie and Harriet life but get real. Marriage is for life or should be and its not a game. Do you want to get married and does your boyfriend? If your hearts are not in it then it probably wont work out and then where would the baby be? In the middle of some ugly divorce proceedings? Think about things in life instead of just doing. I am not preaching cause I have done alot of weird things myself and I try not to judge, rather try to give advise about things that I have some knowledge about or have done wrong myself and hate to see people struggle with stuff that I have. Don't take any of this personal or wrong cause that was not my intentions. (smile)

Answer 5

you guys do what you feel is best.

I have a friend who chose to get married while pregnant, and her mom ended up having to plan everything, and she got kinda hormonal and stressed out. It wasn't easy. But she's also really happy with her life right now.

I don't think waiting a little longer to get married would hurt anything. It appears that you were planning on marrying before you guys ended up pregnant, so I guess I don't have to tell you that no one should get married just because a baby's on the way, but since you were planning on getting married anyway, sooner might be better than later.

Do what's best for the three of you, screw "everyone"

Answer 6

First of all congrats on your little one. You and your fiance should take things one event at a time. Your health, sanity and stress level need to remain normal and calm. Your child should not be the reason you get married. If the 2 of you love each other now, you can wait until after the baby and be able to handle the stress a little better without crazy hormones. Good Luck Hun, and many great wishes!!!

Answer 7

My FI and I have been together 4 years, friends for a couple years prior and are now buying our first house. I know marriage should come before baby and house but sometimes peoples lives don't allow for everything to happen in order. The most important thing for me is that we know we will be together for the rest of our lives, we just don't want family, a house or a baby pressuring us to get married sooner. I would much rather have everything I want and skip the wedding until a later date then get married finish paying for the house and have kids and realize it isn't going to work and get a divorce. I think my biggest fear is divorce-I want to be like my grams and papa who have been married 56 years happily. Our problem is now we think I might be pregnant but we have promised not to make it an issue or move the wedding up. It's a hard decision but really only you and your fi can make it, listen to others for advice but make sure you live your lives to make you happy-not others, because in the end its all about you, your fi, and your children....no one else.

Answer 8

I think you should wait until after the baby. That way not only can you include the baby as part of the wedding, but it would definately cut down on the stress you are already under.
Not to mention, sometimes relationships change after the birth of a child.

Answer 9

Married...First Then Have Baby With ur Husband..Cuz When The Baby Born He Or She Need 2 See Both Of Ya 2gether!!..
Anyways Its Up To You..Do What Best 4 You ..!!
Good Luck:)

Answer 10

a baby should never be the reason as to why you should get married. me and my fiance have been dating for 3 1/2 years and i am now 37 weeks pregnant and we are still deciding to wait for another 31/2 years before we get married. Make sure you both can handle a relationship and a child. you dont want to get married, then have a child and then everything go down hill.