me and my english teacher hav been havin a relationship. and i dont want anything to do with him because i just found out that im not pregant. so i told him that we should break this off now before we something lik this happens again. but he said that if i leave him he would destory me. so idk wat to do?
i cant go to the cops either cause his dad works as one so i know that he has connections. and no he's not married.
he also said that he loves me and that he wants to get married,but like i said i don't want anything else to do with guy.
any suggestions?
2006-06-11 04:36:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you wont be any trouble, he will be the one who will lose his job and reputation, so dont worry, report this guy to your family, school or police now.
he is in a positon of trust and he has taken advantage of you. you dont have to worry, just do something about it now.
the only person you need to think of is yourself.
2006-06-11 04:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, go home and write out what has been going on with him, the relationship, his name, etc. Then put it in an envelope and mail it to yourself. Then confront him. Tell him you'll inform the school if he doesn't leave you alone. Its over. And he has just as much to lose as you do.
Then go about your life and hope he's out of the picture. If he does try to mess with you further, you have that letter that is dated as proof of your side of the story (in case he tells the school that you are responsible somehow. The date on the letter would be before he complained). If he bugs you anymore at all, get a restraining order on him and talk to the school about switching teachers or dropping the class.
Might also be a good idea to consider switching schools, so he won't drive you nuts. But whatever you do, don't just take it. You have options too! You could always speak to a lawyer too. They'd probably have some good advice!
2006-06-11 11:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place...you are stupid for getting that involved with a teacher. He needs to be reported to the faculty as well as the police. What do you think he is going to do to destroy you?! If you think about it, why would he say or do anything...either way, he will probably loose his job. The ball is in your court and I suggest you make the move to do the right thing. If you cannot talk to your parents, try getting professional counseling. If he truely loves you like you say he does...he will wait BUT do not mislead him in any way. If you break it off like you should, do NOT get involved with any more teachers until you are over 18 and out of school. Focus on your education......not sex!
2006-06-11 11:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by DrDave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If I were in your shoes I would try to SLOWLY get away from him. First start with the "I'm going out with ::insert girls name here::" Seem unavailable. Then when he wants you to sleep over and so forth make an excuse be it a phone call from mom to the old faithful "I have a headache." If that doesn't work, you need to find out what he hates (nose picking, farting, etc.) and start doing these things. I know this may sound childish, but if you can start making the guy not care that he is with you then he will not miss you as much and the desire to "destroy" you will be lessened. He sounds really dangerous and to just up and leave might be as well (unless you get the hell up outta there as far as you can go so he doesn't find you - Then just RUN!)
2006-06-11 11:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by ^v^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the cops.....Don't let him "bully" you by saying he will "destroy" you. The worst thing he could do to you is give you a failing grade. But his whole career could be destroyed. Report him to the school administration. It doesn't matter what your age is, he's a teacher, and there are strict rules against having relationships with students. I say, cut him out immediately. Refuse to see him, and have no further private conversations with him. If he tries to cause trouble go straight to your school counselor. Pick a female if possible, she'll probably be more sympathetic.
2006-06-11 11:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get the town authorities to deal with it, get the school authorities. Tell the prinicpal or dean what is going on and you do not like what he is doing. What he is doing is harassment and i think you should tel somebody right away. You could tell your parents or even a friend to get some other suggestions. What he is doing is wrong and you do not have to put up with it. Tell somebody and you could get bette advise.
2006-06-11 11:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by Precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough situation... Why dont you try involving your school in this ? You could also turn things and say that he is trying to abuse you... Its ethically wrong .... but... if you want to get out of this mess this is a good idea... But before you go make sure you know how you are going to argue this case... Another option could be changing your school... Also involving your parents would be a good idea depending oh how comfortable you are ... good luck... :)
2006-06-11 11:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by PavithraIndran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get matured n leave u.solve urself dont seek ans.coz once he has tested u he wants more.this z reality.u know him better than all other as u have crossd everything .be defiant n ace ne situation comes.soon u ll overcome this problem.else u keep dstance from hm to brush ur picture from his mind.bhave in a humorous way bfore him n tel him the truth.
2006-06-11 11:46:27 · answer #8 · answered by ri8 choice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him to the school principle and your parents. Better yet, tell as many people as possible otherwise it will be just his word against yours.
Unless his dad is the commissioner of the police, he won't be able to cover this up.
2006-06-11 11:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shep 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're being victimized, friend.
Turn the tables
Go on the offensive
He's threatened you...
tell ya what... I won't stand for that, and neither should you.
Gimme his name.
We'll have a "talk"
A nice friendly chat...
Call him right now...tell him he better learn to like the taste of blood and teeth real quick
2006-06-11 11:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by ardent_psychonaut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋