My parents babysit my son 5 days a week while I work. This is a tremendous help to me and I know my parents adore their time with him. But my dad is a pot smoker, he does not do it in front of us but the smell is present once in a while. And he will leave out his pipe too. I want the best for my son, what can i do?
2006-06-11 04:34:45 · 31 answers · asked by sugarmeplz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Do you think you turned out badly? Because you are a product of that same environment that you are worried about so much now. Marijuana is a drug and is illegal - however it is not heroin, cocaine, or even alcohol. A person high on pot may be a little careless (hence leaving his pipe out), and a little hungry (lol), but they are not out of their wits. He may be in a better mood and more creative then most grandpas. Not to mention more open-minded. So as far as what you can do about it? Deal with it. Respect him and his home. And to all those other answerer's who told you to find alternate care for him: why in the world would you trust a complete stranger with your child. Family is definitely better for the child in this case.
2006-06-11 14:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by luvbeingmom 3 · 9⤊ 3⤋
Try asking your Dad in a nice way if he could not smoke or leave his pipe out in plain view when your son is there and just explain why. If he understands that you don't want your son around that sort of thing than he'll probably do what you ask.
If he can't stop for however long he looks after your son everyday, he may have an addiction, which it kind of sounds like, but I don't know the situation.
Hope that helps a little anyway. And good for you, for not wanting your son around drugs!
2006-06-11 11:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by snl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child must come first in this situation. I know it may help you financially for your parents to watch your son, but think of the health risks it is putting your son in. He may very well grow up thinking that since his Grandpa does it then it must be ok. The fact that your Dad is leaving his pipe out is irresponsible on top of not being responsible to begin with for smoking pot. You need to talk to your parents and explain to them that you would love to continue for them to watch your son, however, unless your Dad stops using while your son is around them that you will have no choice but to seek other help watching your son. Also tell them that it is very irresponsible for him to leave his pipe out considering that your son could get a hold of it. Some people find it very scary to stand up to their parents. But you have to put your son before your fears and do this......Good luck....
2006-06-11 11:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only evidence is the smell, don't worry about it. Kids that age already think old people (anyone over 35) smell funny. And dress funny, talk funny, act funny... Seriously, though, at least until he's a little older (12-13) and is actually (likely) exposed to marijuana, he won't put 2 and 2 together. By then you'll have had a "talk" with him about whatever your values are regarding this (assuming, with a pot-smokin' grampa, you're not too rigid).
2006-06-11 12:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone else you can leave your son with? I certainly wouldn't want my children around any type of drugs. If the pipe is left out, is the pot also left out? Your son could get into this and beome very sick or worse. Talk to your Dad and let him know this bothers you. Have you checked out daycare options in your area? Good luck to you and your family.
2006-06-11 11:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set down some ground rules & enforce them!! Tell your parents that while you appreciate all they are doing to help you out, it is ILLEGAL to smoke pot & that you will have to locate some other means of babysitting for your son unless it stops.
If you want our son taken away into DHS should the authorities find this situation out, keep him there.
You are RESPONSIBLE for taking care of your child the best way that you can-not your parents! Quit abdicating responsibility to them. You are the one who had the baby, not your folks. I believe that this is not a new situation & has been going on longer than the child has been around.
Yes, it is hard to enforce rules with you parents. Unfortunately in this case you have to. Youu have a moral, ethical & medical priority to your child.
2006-06-11 11:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by kimberley_a_mobley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the convenience and most likely economics of leaving your son with your parents while you work, but knowing your dad is smoking pot with your son around, constitutes child abuse. You're leaving your child in a dangerous situation. Make other babysitting arrangements NOW and tell your parents why. Your child's health and welfare is at stake.
2006-06-11 11:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by themainsail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not take your child there. I would think that someone could make a pretty good case against you with Child Protective Services if you are knowingly putting your child in a home where drugs are being done. Kids learn by example, and you are allowing your child to see a very bad example. It might be a help to you, but its time to pay someone to babysit for you, put your childs welfare above saving some money!
2006-06-11 11:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by bmwdriver11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many options but mostly I agree with just asking him not to do that when the kid is there. Old folks are very set in their ways and habits. Trying to force a change on them would more than likely just alienate them and leave you paying for chhildcare in the private sector. "ouch"
2006-06-11 11:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ricky J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let daddy watch the kid.
Let your feelings be known, if grandpa refuses to cooperate (probably) you're going to have to find alternate baby sitting. Can the 'rents babysit at your place?
2006-06-11 11:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Joker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋