Wife's an alcoholic, been in rehab 6 times in last year,at end of my rope,should I divorce her?

Answer 1

Have you told her that you will leave her if she can't get her drinking under control?? If you have maybe the next step should be for you to leave. Evidently, she wants the alcohol, more than she wants the marriage. It's a real shame that she can't see what she is doing to everyone concerned. I wish you the best, but it may be time for tough love.

Answer 2

I think what you need to realize is that Alcoholism is a desease. It's something that wont go away without the help and support and love of a fmaily, especailly her husband. I don't know what your situation is, but I do know that you need to weigh your options. There is hope for someone to recover. You need to look at the situation, and ask yourself if you love her, and decide that if you do, that you will take every measure into account to help her get on the right road. Rehab is something that isn't going to work unless she WANTS to get clean. So you need to tell her, LOOK, I'm not going to stick around and watch you kill yourself! I need to be able to love you, and have time with you. I want you to be healthy so we can grow old together.

On the other hand if you have no love for this woman,why are you wasting your time?

Good Luck!

Answer 3

If she has been in rehab 6 times in a year they must be very short termed rehabs.. As a person who has an alcoholic in her family i can tell you they need a longer term rehab if they want to even begin to recover... Best wishes for you and your wife.. as for staying with her that's up to you i can see why you would be at your wits end with this but please for her sake check into a long term rehab wether you stay or go

Answer 4

wow I feel ya...my husband is an alcoholic and is rehab as I type. I am also a majoring in counseling. It is so hard to understand why they do such things. i have learned that there are deeper issues going on or have gone on in the past that have them resort to this behavior. You are the only one who knows if you can handle this or not. I know it is a sickness that she really can help, but at the same time she is going to have to try to be understanding. I owuld make sure she gets to AA everyday. and sees a councelor regularly. let her know you love her, but will not be subjected to living in hell. I would sit down and think can u live like this for the rest of your life?? good luck

Answer 5

Do you still love your wife that is the question? If you really think that their is a chance in her changing mabey you should give her some more time. But if you cant remember anything good about her or about what she gives you that makes you happy, then mabey you should leave her. Try to make a compromise with her that makes you both happy in the end. Sometimes its takes more then a couple of times to make some one realize how much life or a person is worth to them. Divorce is a big step and if you have thought about it enought to where you will be happy and able to move on, then dont stay with some one to make them happy, youll be confused and unsatisfied with your life. I am turly sorry about what your going through. Good Luck, if nothing eles talk to her and explain to her your feelings.

Answer 6

so much to think about this can not be easy. you have stood by her for the 6 trys but maybe its time to end it. it sounds as if you truely love her or you wouldnt be on here looking for advice. some times with out knowing it you could be her safety net. as she thinks no mater what you will always be there. i hate to say it but i think maybe you should divorce her but still be a friend. untill she can work out her demons and give you and her both time to heal. i have friends that did that a few couples and they are not happily remarried. hope this helps you. the big point is there is lots of damage and you both need to heal and so do the children if there are any.

Answer 7

What do you think she would do if it were you instead of her with the problem. There must have been something to get her into that mess. Look at the vows you made and do what you promised to do. She gave you all she had so you need to work with her and handle the problem. Hopefully there are no kids involved. I know it is easy for others to say stick with her but you could have serious regrets if you abandon her in time of need. I'm sure you need help to deal with her so get it and good luck.

Answer 8

I had an alcoholic husband i stayed with him for 14 years. he went through every program available. I finally talked to a professional in the matter myself and i was told that after a period of years you become a crutch to that person and when an alcoholic never stops they usually have to hit rock bottom to realize they have too. I finally left my husband and now my children are older and they remember all they went through and are glad they did not have to continue to grow up in it. My husband died from throat cancer and liver cancer when my son was 12 and my daughter was 5 but they seem to cope better with his death than with the troubles we had while living with him.It is hard to make a decision to take children from a parent but I think it is all for the children to do what will not have an affect on their lives for their future. You can always crutch her because she knows she dont have to change to make things better for anyboy including herself. I hope things do work for you and i wish you the best.

Answer 9

well we dont really know the whole situation. i know it's hard to deal with. i couldn't last that long to be honest. YOu should at least tell her you are done and considering divorce. You can't stand to watch her kill herself and damage her family everyday. If you havent done this already. im sorry, its sad, the choices people make in their daily lives, not realizing they hurt everybody they come in contact with. Ask her if she is willing to lose her marriage over alcohol. you are awesome for trying to stick it out and help her through it. ask god what you should do

Answer 10

I had to divorce my husand of 19 years for his gambling addiction.He had been to tx twice and still gambled and it took me leaving him to get clean. I feel I saved his life by leaving him and now he says it took losing it all for him to straighten out. You have to save yourself first and foremost.I am not an advocate of divorce but I had to save myself and my son. 4 years down the line we are all fine but remain divorced..Good luck and keep in touch..