is love worth the differences?

Question

i love this guy,so so much...i wld do anything to make sure i have a future with him..that i can just be with him.....
but some things make me up.some things are the reasons why i am me,and the facts are we are d total opposites.
his so religious,has even got offers on becoming a priest,his so holly.."i" dont even have a religion,i believe in super naturals and if der's ever one thing that i wld totally stand up against,its religion..
he loves kids,i cant stand them
he wants a perfect life,job and familly,my plans are to do community service somewhere at d end of the world in some corrupted area
i love tatoos and piercings,he tells me he likes me d way i am n i don need to "put needles in my skin" to change anything
I KNO THE DIFFERENCES ARE TOTAL **** AND SHALLOW,BUT DEY MAKE US FIGHT,ALMOST TO THE EXTENT DAT AT THE END OF THE DAY WE JUST ENDUP KEEPING QUIET SO WE DONT PISS EACH OTHER OFF ANYMORE,SOME TIMES EVEN DECIDE ITS BEST TO STAY AWAY FOR A WHILE
he's perfect,help me out

you see we both respect each others opinions,i gave up the piercings and tatoos,and d kids issue,agreeing we'r both ok with only 1 kid,might even just adopt one instead..i even said i would allow getting married in a church
he doesnt want to be a priest,and he accepts my choice of career..and my not agreeing with his religious beliefs
but d fights are still der,those were just examples.
even we clear out the signs of having had a fight by changing the subject and forgetting bout it...
but i just dunno,i feel it might be hurting him cause it does hurt me a LITTLE,but i jus cant walk away from our feelings nd neither can he.we try but is it worth it?i dont really kno how to put the question either to be honest..but i gues your opinions will really help.

ps.the sex is great,fortunately we're not dat different wen it comes to that..

Answer 1

If you don't respect & can't accept each other's differences, it'll never work. You need to at least have some common ground or interests and agree on the important things. And it looks like you can't compromise on some of the important things (kids, expectations about family life). Compromise or don't.

As for whether love is worth the differences, only both of you can answer that.

Answer 2

Well they say oppostites attract but that doesn't apply in all cases..
It is a definate must to solve all the issues before even going down the marriage and kids road!!!

At the moment u only have yourselves to worry over-- dont bring another innocent life into the equasion, trust me they only make the hole bigger!!

So differences aside-- do u love each other implicitly? Can u not wake up everyday without thinking about each other?- with that in mind-- ok its life if you pee each other off but thats what its all about- if you are meant to be together you will come through come hell or high water

Make the best of what you have nobody is perfect -- perfection does not exist.

Be happy live a long life together and then think about having a child
good luck

Answer 3

That's amazing. I dated a guy just like that for almost a year and a half. We had the childfree (me) vs rabid breeder (him) problem too. And he actually went to priest retreats and shite like that when he was much younger. I am an agnostic with a rather large chip on my shoulder regarding his religion.

The differences are insurmountable. They are just as big as they seem and just as important. Over the course of history, billions have died due to religious wars, persecution, and genocide based on religious identity. Definitely serious here.

He isn't perfect or at least not for you. Tell him how you feel and that you're thinking about giving him up. If he loves you, he will be willing to make compromises and try to make things better for you. If he is unwilling, then kick him in the nutsack and move on.

Kids are NOT a compromise! It sounds like you're the only one make any REAL concessions here. I still say he sounds like a major fuckstain and you should either get more from him (no kids, no church wedding, bodily integrity) or kick him to the curb.

Answer 4

I thnk you have the question backwards. Are those differences worth the love?? It sounds like you are both having problems with them. And that is for you two to work out or to decide if you should go on. Believe me, it's much easier to be with someone who shares your dislikes and likes. Or at least willing to accept you for the way you are.

Answer 5

It could be infatuation or something in that guy turns you on.. but i guess such relationships dont last long.. U might face severe problems in future. Try to stay together for some years and then only think of future with him...

Answer 6

do YOU really love him?does HE really love you?
i think ur both exaggerating your issues but warning.if you cant agree on babies,let alone religion,then youre building with sand by the seashore,when heavy current flows thru then you got n home.

Answer 7

well if he has to tell you the way he would like you then obviously that ain't good. urnot suppose to be with someone that you don't get along with. but you two maybe in luv ... way i got confused sry i was going good but this is too hard to answer it only makes sense in my head. crap. GOOD LUCK! just if you identify you luv him and he luvs you DO not change eachother. That ain't good. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

You have very different characteristics.It wont work just forget about it,unless you forsake your own beliefs for his.

Answer 9

just ask im out nd c wot happens

Answer 10

If you are complete opposites..he must know how to spell.