Am I bisexual or lesbian?

Question

Umm...I only fantazise aloT bout gurls, but a little about boiz. I think gurls r gd 4 sex and for love too...But I seem to think about boiz in a more romantic and loving way. It seems like gurls attract me more than boys, sexually and sometimes in love, but boiys only attract me by their sweetness, not body nor nothing... I seem to turn down guyz too much, but open wit gurls, but STILL like guys....So, AM I BISEXUAL? OR LESBIAN?

Bte, I'm 14...

Answer 1

If you have ever seen something called the "Kinsey Scale," it describes people who are mostly attracted to one sex and somewhat attracted to the other. Judging by everything you say here, it really can't be said what, of those two labels, you are. You seem to find women more sexually attractive, but men more romantically interesting. Frankly, I think you are putting too much stock in the label. While I know it can be hard not having a set identity, you should just be with someone who you find BOTH sexually and romantically interesting and who treats you right, whether they are a man or a woman. If you really need a label for your peace of mind, I would say you are bisexual, but you are also rather young, give yourself time to figure yourself out. You already understand one point better than most. You know it is not all about sex and sexual attraction, otherwise you would have settled this question a while ago. Just give yourself time, you don't need to know every last little thing about yourself by the time you finish high school, trust me.

Answer 2

I was like that for a long time. Are you still a virgin? You may need to "lose" that to a guy and mess around with a girl to really know. I know it sounds promiscuous, but you need to experiment to know what feels right. I used to only think about girls until I was actually "with" a man and then I realized that while I think woman are beautiful, sensual, and a whole lot more caring at times, I am truly more attracted to men in a relationship kind of way.

btw, if you are very young, you should wait a bit before trying anything. I am in no way saying you should go out and sleep with anyone if you are still a kid. If you are an adult, then my advice stands, I just can't tell if you have allot of typos or are super young, sorry... :)

Answer 3

You are just fantasizing about people rather than falling in love with anyone. You want a way to have a real life with a person you love. You need to be in love with someone. You don't know how to make that happen. You think it is because you are attracted to both males and females at the same time. There is an answer. You need to let someone make love to you. You are afraid of sex. You are afraid of making love because it is so physical and not spiritual. You are afraid of the consequences that could result from making love with another person in the flesh. You are afraid of illness, or STDs. You need to be independent living in your own studio apartment you can afford. Then let life happen and you will be given the people you need to help you accept life and love and sex and all the trials and tribulations and joys that go along with friendships and relationships. Life is about love. Love is about independence. Love begins with you. You will discover that STDs are not to be afraid of, but to understand spiritually.

Answer 4

Probably you're a Lesbian. Since the fact that you fanitscize more about girls, I think you'll earn more sexual pleasures as a happy lesbian than a bi. I think being Bi sometimes is a hefty business since you have to balanc between sexual pleasures with both guys and as well as girls. Therefore, my assumption on your sex confusion would be that you're a lesbian. I hope you're gonna have to workout what girls want more if you're a lesbian and how you can create an equlibrium with guys on the same levels.

Answer 5

I would have to say that you're bi-curious but leaning towards the lesbian side of things. I was the same way for a while....heck, i still am a little bit. I"m still attracted to guys, but i'm not as interested in them as i used to be. All I can tell you is too just be true to yourself and you'll figure it out.

Answer 6

By all accounts you are Lesbian. They want to be with girls all the time and have a sexual relationship with them. You may have many male friends, but don't have a sexual interest in them. A Bisexual on the other hand wants to have sex with both and you say you do not. Answer - Lesbian

Answer 7

Personally... you should consider trying a real relationship with a girl, and you may find that they're as romantic, if not more romantic than guys (no offense guys)... In my opinion, in your age range, guys are only "sweet and romantic" to you just to get into your pants...

You shouldn't let people deciade whether you're a lesbian or not... that's you're personal choice... butn you ask for an opnion... hmmm... I would probably say you're a lesbian...

Answer 8

I would say bisexual because you like both. How old are you? If you are still a teenager, you could be hetrosexual. All teenagers go through a stage where they are trying to find out which sex they like. It is perfectly natural. But don't worry about it. Nature will take its course and you'll know.

Answer 9

I think you need to stop with the labling. You will probley hear that from a lot of us. Your young you should exsperment a lot more and follow your feelings. They will never take you where you don't feel confortable. Only you know what it is you want and if you deside to go both ways do it. That just means your happy and thats all that counts.

Answer 10

Obviously Bi-sexual with a higher tendency of being a lesbian