I was told two nights ago my husband wants a divorce. We have only been married four months. PLEASE>> NO JOKES>>>NOT THIS TIME> he says its because he wants to be back in the pentecostal church. I am baptist and do no believe in alot he does.. He never said religion was this important to him. Now, I am 36 soon to be divorced...again... two teenage sons to raise alone...again.. And I need some insight on how to deal with this. Any words of wisdom?
2006-06-11 02:33:42 · 16 answers · asked by impossible903 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't understand - what does being in the penecostal church have to do with you being a baptist? He knew you were a baptist before he married you - right? Aren't you allowed to have your own beliefs? or do you have to believe everything he does?
Apparently, he does not take marriage seriously if he is willing to divorce you after four months. For this reason alone, I say lose the loser.
Now that you have had this experience, you know for the next time, if there is a next time, make certain you know where the man stands whom you intend to marry so you don't have to go through this nonsense again.
Personally, I believe that there may be other reasons why this man wants to divorce you after such a short time - he may have issues.
Make sure you know a man for at least two years before you marry him.
Good Luck and God bless.
2006-06-11 02:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he wants a divorce for a different reason but just using religion as an excuse..You probably need to move on the best you can
2006-06-11 09:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by dwh12345 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like you really care about him. Most men are introverts and so I would avice for you to talk with him alone and ask him straight out what's bothering him about the whole relationship? Is it your kids is it the way you are as a house wife. It won't hurt to ask and if he just can't give you a real answer. Move on with your life...u don't need a man like that in your life. If he can't be honest now..he won't be in the future. Good Luck!
2006-06-11 11:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by MonkeyCat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you suggest to him that you both go and have a talk with his pastor and yours all together regarding this situation?
I don't believe he will be comfortable with this as he knows its not about God's will. God ordained the family the same as he ordained the church.
If he wants a divorce you can't stop him, but you can confront him in a rational logical way regarding his using God as the excuse.
2006-06-11 09:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is not the real REASON for this, it's just an excuse.
He doesn't really love you, nor does he want to be with you.
Do you think he would care if Pamela Anderson was Baptist?
Use you heart and stop using your brain!
2006-06-11 10:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by QuestOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appaently he is using his relgion as grounds for divorce after only 4 months a scrape goat reason have you talked to your minister about this situation perhaps he could give you some insight your a very strong woman i'm pulling for you
2006-06-11 09:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is terrible for you,he is destroying all your hopes and dreams.i dont think his desire to join the church is his true reasonhe needs to be truthful with you.you dont leave someone you love to join a religion.you might point out to him that the church doesnt believe in divorce.could you perhaps phone his pastor,and get him to talk to your husband.
2006-06-11 09:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing you a favor. Do you want to be in an unhappy relationship asking why or an independent woman making choices that wil benefit you and your children.
2006-06-11 09:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by RF Ace Face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ma am, would it be too hard to take a view of his faith?
Or are you afraid of what you might happen to find at his church?
Put ir this way, you have ch..ch! and what's missing is ur!!!
2006-06-11 09:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel God is more concerned about what building you go to and what words you say when you worship Him, or about keeping your promise to Him about marriage?
The Bible says God hates divorce. It doesn't say He hates Pentacostals.
2006-06-11 09:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by wuxxler 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋