I love this man ...is another man in the same position that this man that I found?
2006-06-11 02:17:53 · 14 answers · asked by amjakhal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are no positive reasons for dating a married man. Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing. If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these truths before you leap:
1. He won't commit to a future with you.
A man who is in a very unhappy or unsatisfying marriage can feel swept away by how wonderful you make him feel. He may even blurt out, "I've never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you." This may sound like a commitment to a future with you. It's not. Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his loving you and making a commitment to you.
2. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like.
You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems.
3. Hiding is exhausting.
Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you..
2006-06-11 02:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by diva 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Put yourself into the position that if you were married and your husband was in love with someone else - how would you feel?
Men and women make vows to each other - to love and to honor -but by fooling around with someone outside their marriage, they have broken vows.
And depending upon whom they decide to fool around with, they stand the risk of bringing disease (STD's) into the marriage.
Now if you respect the person whom you marry, you would not want to fool around with someone else.
It is interesting to say - I needed to buy a bed for my mom - and I met a married man and he and I spent about 90 minutes together while I made up my mind - and we had some of the best chat that I have ever had with any man - and a part of me lusts him now - but I have much too much respect for his wife, for him, and for his marriage - and even if it were possible for him and me to have something, I would refuse to do so.
As sad as it makes me, I feel that I have to do the right thing.
If I didn't do the right thing, I would feel terribly guilty about fooling around with a married man.
There are plenty of single men out there, so I just have to keep on looking until I find chemistry with that special SINGLE man.
2006-06-11 09:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love sees no bad things at all. It is only when the intellect gets in the picture that the "badness" of the situation sets in. Married men are sooo endearing since they feed the lady's ego. Imagine , someone who wants you even though he has someone waiting at home? But if you are young, try to get someone who is free and yours alone otherwise you will always be a number 2.
2006-06-11 09:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by September Rain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going with married men the bad thing about it is your a home wrecker.
You need to think about other people besides yourself.
There's a wife with love & kids with love.
2006-06-11 09:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Do you want to be a homewrecker?
2. If he cheats on his wife, don't you think he will cheat on you?
3. He's obviously lying to his wife--he may also be lying to you.
4. Don't you think you're good enough to find a man who loves only you?
2006-06-11 09:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT'S THE BAD THING?? I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU ASKED THIS QUESTION...
IMAGINE IF YOUR DAD HAS ANOTHER MISTRESS.. HOW DO YOUR MOM WILL THINK??? 'M SERIOUS.. YOU'LL HATE HER LIKE U HATE NO1 B4... CUZ SHE'S BREAKING THE RELATIONSHIP BTWEEN YOUR PARENTS.. .. SIMPLE AS THAT...
YOU'RE BREAKING A FAMILY.. DO YOU THINK THAT'S BAD???
UNLESS HE WANT A PIECE OF U N STILL HAVE HIS WIFE.. IT'S YOU WHO LOST IN THE GAME...
2006-06-11 11:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by AzNgUrL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his marriage could break up and your named as the cause most married men who cheat seldom if ever leave the one there married to
2006-06-11 09:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by precious52801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should listen to Mamabear....how would you feel if your husband were seeing someone else
2006-06-11 09:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by laura468 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not in a strong position to hold his affection.
I guess it's ok if you only want no-strings sex.
2006-06-11 09:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simly don't. He's taken.
2006-06-11 09:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Itiswhatitis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋