Ladies could I please get your opinion.?

Question

I lived with my ex that only recently left for about 4 years. In the last several months she has grown very cold, and last week left me. She says she just is'nt sure what she wants anymore. But it's more complicated than that, we have a 2 year old. I'm almost a100 pecent theres none else in the picture. She realy has no time unless it's during work hours. Also she did'nt take anything but the essentials with her. For the question, should I wait or is it over?

Answer 1

its hard to give an opinion,as only she knows the answer to your question.maybe she feels in a rut,and is looking for a better life,that she probably wont find.maybe she wants to get your attention.they say that if people go but leave their possessions behind,it usually means they are coming back.good luck.

Answer 2

I could be totally wrong, but I think there might really be someone else. She may not be having a full-blown affair (like you said, she doesn't have time...then again, we make time for things that are important to us), but she could have some platonic thing going on with someone at work. Sometimes if a woman isn't happy, it doesn't take much flirtation and attention from another guy to get her attention focused elsewhere (it's the same case for guys, I don't know why I'm making it sound like this is only true for women). I just think that if she made a sudden change and she's not even too concerned with what she takes with her, and she's being evasive about why she's leaving other than saying "I'm not sure what I want anymore"...I don't know, it just sounds fishy to me. I'm so sorry there's a child involved, though, that makes it so much worse. Do what you can to make sure she knows you love her and want her back, but just realize that's all you can do -- you can't force her to come back because she'll just resent you for it later and then probably leave again. Chances are, if this is a mistake, she'll come to realize it on her own. I promise you, that if you've got yourself together and you're not down on your hands and knees begging her to come back but are more aloof about it, this is going to be more attractive to her. Good luck, I wish you and your child the best, whether it's with your ex or not (remember, sometimes we want what we think is best and it turns out that things like this are actually a blessing).

Answer 3

If you have been dating for years, it will not be easy to move on quickly. Take the time off to learn more about yourself and what you really want. She may be feeling closed in since it sounds as though she doesn't do much other than work and home life. Age is also a factor. Maybe she feels as though she needs to experience more before settling down. Whatever her reason is, you need to move forward....which will be hard. However, it doesn't mean you need to date right away either. Give it a few months, if she comes back, then it was meant to be. If not, slowly start dating.

Answer 4

Well, if you still love her then you should wait. It sounds like you do so you should try to give her as much as space as she needs and wait for her to come around. They always do! You know better than anyone if she is seriously thinking about leaving you for good. If you are ready for the relationship to split then you should try talking to her and really see where she is coming from. Are these problems something you both can work on together or it could be that you both are ready to move on? That is something you need to find out together.

Answer 5

Well I say its not totally over if there are still things of hers there then it is possible that she just needed a break and she will be back......Just give it some time and make sure that you go to court as soon as possible so that you can see your child and so that she cannot move far away with the child either.....it seems to me that you were not as romantic to her when u should be.......U should try to take her out first and if it dont work then im not sure what to say........Just be careful........Good Luck.......

Answer 6

I know this isn't what you want to hear, but just move on. If she's been cold emotionally for awhile, then it's been over for her for awhile now. I am sorry there is a child involved, but to me, it sounds like it's over. Just cause you think she has no time for someone else cause she works all the time, you might be suprised. Don't sit and dwell on it. Just realize you don't need someone who is cold emotionally and move on. You'll fnd someone else and when you do you'll ask yourself why you ever missed her. Good luck

Answer 7

You can wait. but only a little. Don't spend your life waiting. Only wait at max of 1month. And thats even cutting it. I bet you can find loads of women that would wnat to go out with you. It already showes alot that that you care alot by writting about it. For now try and meet new women. Hangout with them. You'll probably find there one of your interest in no time. Good Luck!! If you need anymore advise. [e-mail]

Answer 8

In my opinion,i will give you two of the thinking ways.
If you want the negative one, so you just think that's is already over because she has been left you and she said that she isn't sure what she wants anymore (it's just the reason).
However, you have been dating for 2 years but you should try your best to forget her and maybe someday you will find the girl that better from her.
If you want the positive way, you should try to get her back again.
How hard it is,but you must try it and if you want to take this way so you must prepare yourself to accept the risks,ok? goodluck!

Answer 9

I think she's no longer interested to get back to you. She might have a new love interest on her side. And the time you saw her, she's confused and cold. It's about time to think for your future and child. Why wait for her if she doesn't love you anymore? The best thing you can do is to get yourself stable and look forward for a good future.

Answer 10

Buddy, when she had your child, it's no longer just you and her but the child too. If she can't make up her mind soon, then go on with your life for the sake of your child, make her decide, you don't have a lifetime. Give yourself to someone who can be a willing partner and enjoy life to the fullest. Life is too short to be wasted by someone's indecision.